Does my Wife really want me back?

Question

My Wife and I had a pretty good relationship, then her grown up kids wanted to move in. We talked about to ourselves and had plans on how we can still have our special time together. But when they arrived that all changed. She gradually spent less and less time with me and more with her kids. now I apparently offended her 23 year old daughter in law, and now we are seperated. She says she misses me and that she loves me. But that it's too soon to come back what's up with that?

Answer 1

She is putting her family first ahead of you. If you don't mind where she has "placed" you in her life, then keep waiting.

Otherwise move on.

Answer 2

If the kids are grown up and with spouses, what the hell are they doing home? Unless they were a part of Katrina, or had a home fire, they should be in their own space, even if it is a studio! Your wife knows better. She probably agreed, because she feels she owes them and they are not your kids together, they are hers and she considers them her priority, which is sad. I wouldn't call her anymore, let her realize how stupid this move was on her own and let her wonder what's up with you. Continue to live your life and although that may be hard, you must prove a point. Her adult kids, who probably wouldn't allow or want her to move in, or you the one that will be by her side through thick and thin. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I believe that her kids are grown Its you who she is going to spend the rest of her life with . Her children will eventually move on in their own relationships, and then she will be alone if you two havent fixed your marrage by then. I think you all should have a dicussion to let the children know that you are her husband she made a vow with you and that they need to give her that life back, if they love their mother they will understand. You both made a covenant with eachother. The bible states that the husband comes first and what God put together let not man put asunder

Answer 4

Hi there !!!
I believe your wife does love you , but she is torn between her children and your relationship. Like all good moms, she wants to be there for her kids, but she has to be there for you as well, her husband.
Invite her to go out, have a heartfelt conversation with her, and let her know how you feel.
If you offended her daughter in law, if possible, sit down and talk to her, do not ignore the situation, for it will not go away.
When you speak to your wife, listen to her, really listen to what she says to you.
You know her, speak to her with your heart.
If possible, I would see if you guys can help them get their own place, this would be best for everyone. Not like you are going to separate her from her children, but married couples need their privacy and space.
Send her flowers, and a love letter
Just do something nice, that will make her see your love and good intentions
Try to have a good relationshiop with her children, that helps a ton

Wishing you all the best and a speedy reunion

Love Light and Peace

Answer 5

It's simple and I'm really sorry. She's chosen them over you. They will never not be her children. What you have to ask yourself is if there is any way you can live with her knowing that you will always be in a position of weakness (as in always having to check who you are and what you say).

Most men (and women) I know would not choose to live that way. I wish you the best of luck man. Sorry that this is the way it worked out for you. She's taking care of what she thinks is important. Maybe it's time for you to start doing the same.

Answer 6

She probably does miss you and love you, but you need to resolve the adult kids living there. It sounds cramped and maybe like walking on eggshells. Just as I would not want my in laws disrupting my marriage, I also would not want grown children straining it either. You respect them, help them and love them (as much as possible), but you are not married to them. These are no longer young children- they are adults, and she seems to do doing little to help them become more independent. You did not mention why they wanted to move back in- this should only be a short time, get on their feet and get out. It was your house also. She should not have to "chose", but she does need to put herself in your shoes.

Answer 7

I believe that when you marry, you become one. It would sound fair to say that the children come first. but, these children are adults now. your wife needs to define boundaries, she has kids, but she also has a husband now. her son is married and has his wife. ask her..what would happen when your son leaves with his wife, and you? where will you be, who will you have? it's not right that she has you seperated from her and the rest of the family, you aren't an outcast, you're her husband. and they all need to respect you as what you are, a part of that family.

Answer 8

You aren't good enough for her when her kids are around. Excuse me you not number 1 in her eyes, only when you two are alone, other than that her kids come first and only what they say of do will be seen and heard

you are out of luck

Answer 9

the kids need to leave..they are old enough ..you and your wife need to have your life now...its your turn..tell them to get a life...you two need to sit down as a united front( you and wife) and tell this kids/adults the house rules and that this is you and your wifes house and if they want to stay they need to follow your rules and be respectful...Good luck with those kids and make time for each other...put each other first!!!!!!

Answer 10

Sorry about this,
She just neeeds here space, just give it too her. Dont do anything that is against your best interest which is force her to make up her mind, the more you distance yourself from her and live your own life the more attractive you will become to her. Just give her some space so she can make up her mine. good luck