2007-01-28 13:22:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell your boyfriend to get another job because he has 18 yrs of child support to pay. You do what YOU think you should do. I would dump his loser a s s.
2007-01-28 13:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shoudn't think of a child as simply something you cannot afford. There is much more to having a baby then spending money. For one, there are plenty of government programs out there for people who need financial help. (medicaid, wic, welfare, etc) In my opinion, you should never have an abortion simply because you "can't afford to have a baby". BUT... The point is... You're the one who will actually be having the baby, not him. This is YOUR decision. He doesn't have to be involved. He doesn't even have to be on the birth certificate. If you want to keep the baby, then do that. But don't have an abortion just because he wants you to. He would probably feel differently about it if he could see it from your perspective.
2007-01-28 21:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your heart. Your boyfriend has a lot of growing up to do. He "can't afford it" but yet wants you to. That says to me he doesn't want the responsibility to having a child but it doesn't look like he took the time to take precautions to try to prevent it, though you didn't say either way. There is a lot to think about when children are concerned. I, personally, could never give a child of mine up for adoption, because I would be wondering everyday how is my baby? Did she start rolling over yet? Wonder if she started teething? .. Think you get the picture. Although adoption would be a choice I would make if I Had to because of so many couples that want children and can't have them. Also, though it might be hard, and you want to keep your child, do it. The happiness will definately outweigh the bad things, trust me. Your boyfriend will have to pay child support even if he doesn't want anything to do with it (that's what it looks like anyway). If I were in your shoes, I'd keep my child-no matter what. Hope this helps. God Bless!
2007-01-28 21:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want an abortion then you do not have to have one. It is a womans choice. You are a woman. It is up to you.
Stay away from your boyfriend right now and start talking to other adults who can help you in your pregnancy.You do not want to be stressed out. Make sure you have a healthy baby and get medical attention right now. There are parents websites and pregnancy websites . Good Luck !:)
Love is accepting the responsibility of what you choose to do together and it's obvious that he only wanted you for sex and it wasn't love or he would be accepting this new responsibility.
.So love the life inside you and protect and nurture your new family.
2007-01-28 21:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by MystiMi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If most of us waited until we could afford to have kids then there wouldn't be very many children in the world. I say have your baby. I have a friend who regrets having an abortion every day of her life. There is an emotional cost involved. Having a baby is a wonderful, beautiful experience. My son brings so much joy into my life, I couldn't imagine the world with out him. My husband and I are also excited to be expecting our second son in April. Let it be your decision. And consider all possibilities, before terminating your pregnancy. People like my sister in law would love to have a baby, but can't. Perhaps think about adoption instead. Then you always know your baby is safe. Good Luck.
2007-01-28 21:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by angie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want an abortion don't get one, you'll just regret it and feel guilty for the rest of your life. Chances are, he's not going to take care of your baby anyway(I don't mean just financially). Tell him you're keeping your baby wether he likes it or not and tell him next time to strap one on if he doesn't want a baby. Condoms are very cheap. Most people are never financially ready to have a baby but they make it, you find a way because having a baby is so worth it, even if they do have a deadbeat dad or no dad at all. He lost all rights to a decision when he didn't use protection and let his sperm into your body to fertilize your egg. Don't let him talk you into it, it's not his choice anymore.
2007-01-28 21:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by Whiteangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right?! My boyfriend told me the exact same thing when I was pregnant. But it goes against everything I was tought and everything that I believe in. I didnt have an abortion just because he couldnt afford it, he should of thought about that before having sex. Having a baby is the most precious thing in the world.
2007-01-28 23:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I am only 19 and hes about to be 24. His mother who is suppose to be SOooo religious told me to get an abortion. I told them both no! because i am the one that makes the decision. Its my body and my life. They then told me maybe i should go to counseling and maybe they will help me open my eyes to get an abortion. Can we say assholes? I am now 31 weeks pregnant. I have not talk to the father in 15 weeks but he will be in his life. I am soooo excited to have my little boy!!! its an amazing experience and i don't regret one decision that i have made yet! If you want this child, all you need is support from your family and friends. And you can also talk to me. Im a friendly chick! plus i think i've been through a lot now!!
2007-01-28 22:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you have an abortion, just like no one can make you keep the baby. It is, in essence, the woman's right to choose, and if this jerk doesn't support you about the decision you make regarding the life he helped create inside you, then screw him. It's very selfish of him to want you to abort because of his finances...basically he's saying he doesn't want to pay you child support! If you're young or just not stable, you can both get off the hook and give the baby a better chance at life by putting it up for adoption, because there are planty of loving couples who can't have kids of their own. But if you are ready and want to keep the baby, then congratuations for being so mature and responsible. Ditch this jerk if he can't support you in this diffuclt time. Best of luck to you and your baby! Don't let him pressure you into this!
2007-01-28 21:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not have an abortion. have the child and raise it to the best of your ability. if you have an abortion, you will regret it for the rest of your life. you will always wonder what the kid would have been like, what they would have been good at, and what they would have been when they grew up. it is a special thing to be a parent. you may not be able to give your child the best life but then again who out there really can. just give your child the best you can give. they will love you for that and you will be glad you gave them like instead of taking it. any life is better than none at all. never forget that. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-01-28 21:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is cruel, don't do it. It 's not the baby's fault. He/She did not ask to be brought into this world. It deserves a chance at a good life. If you don't want to keep the baby, there are so many couples out there that have been trying for years to have a baby, but can't. Give the baby a chance, and give it up for adoption.
2007-01-29 05:36:48 · answer #11 · answered by Chihuahua Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋