UK If you really hated someone.?

Question

And i mean really hated someone, what lenghts would you go to? I hate a certain person so much. dont get me wrong im a sensible person and happily married, but this guy really caused me a lot of grief and when ever i see him i want to give him the biggest kicking he has ever had, he knows to stay away from me and my family but sometimes the urge to go and batter him winds me up. am i wrong to think this or are there a few of you who can see where i am coming from.

This almost cost me my marriage, and we seperated for a few months. and it wasnt any wrong doing from me by the way.

Answer 1

the trouble with hate is that you use up so much energy and hurt yourself with stress, while the other person truly does not give a damn. Much better just to realise was a wotrthless piece of shite they have been to you and move on

Answer 2

Your hate weakens you. That's just the way it is. You ultimately want to get yourself to a point where this person has no affect on you. You want to be apathetic toward this person, perhaps always keeping an eye on him so he does not hurt you or your family anymore, but you want to be emotionally detached from him. Hate is the polar opposite of Love, both intense emotions. So you're asking what to do with your hate, I think. Figure out how to get rid of it, not for him. No, no, no. For you. You are weak right now because of your hate for him. You can beat his **** blue fifty times and you still will not have solved the deeper issue. Be able to explain to yourself how this person wronged you, hurt you, and then forgive him. Do not forget. But forgive; then you will be free. Someone told me this once, and believe me, it was hard. I wrote a ten page single spaced typed letter to a guy I caught nailing my fiancee. And this was ten years later. I never knew what a hold he had on me until I wrote him and forgave him and apologized for doing violence to him. This may be hard for you to hear, but try it. If you truly want this bastard out of your head, then turn off the hate. Good luck.

Answer 3

I take it this guy was nobbing your bird? I know the feeling mate

The urge to give him a kicking's terrible isn't it?

Don't, it'll jus cause more problems, adn could even get you locked up. and of course your mrs will be so pissed at you man - it ain't worth it, the fact that the guy's scared shitless of you should be enough - you both knop you'll kick his head in, so what's the point? what will it prove?

just be glad he's fucked off, and resist the urge to go and castrate the slimy little weasle... it'll pass after a while...

Answer 4

I can see where you are coming from but take it from me you must do the opposite to what you feel is wright and thay is to totally ignore this person pretend he no longer exists dint talk and try not to think of him go out of your way to have no contact even an argument, this is contact
It will take you a long time to even get this person out of your system but eventually you will

Answer 5

I know where you are coming from because I hate loads of people.

But this can eat you up inside and I firmly believe that hatred can cause stress and maybe even cancer in later life. So drop it. Walk away from it.

Even if you have to another town, let it go. Sometimes we just have to let go.

Answer 6

ive just been through exactly the same thing. this woman wrote a letter to my wife claiming id slept with 3 woman and had made 2 of them pregnant. the letter arived the day we found out my wife was pregnant with our 4th child so we couldnt have been happier. the letter destroyed our happy family,i had to move out get my own flat and be away from my kids all the time knowing i hadnt done anything wrong. it was only when my wife received a xmas card from her aunty that we realized it was her sending the letters. she was arrested but got away with a caution. everything she put my family through and she gets away with it. im back with my family now and we have a beautiful baby girl....but i swear to god as soon as the oppotunity arises im going to physically hurt this woman so bad that i know im goin down for it already. although we are slowly rebuilding our lives the rage isnt going away...how dare she put my kids through that. i know i cant move on till ive done what i have to do. good luck.

Answer 7

I totally understand and yes, I have been there! Try to get control of your anger before you do something you regret. He may have almost cost you your marriage, but the key word is ALMOST. You are still with your wife and have overcome whatever it is he had done.

I know it's easier said than done and so cliche, but try to let it go.

Answer 8

Don't come down to his level, hate can eat you up on the inside and affect your health and your family, ignore him and move on with you life.

You cannot stop birds flying over your head but you do not have to let them build a nest in your hair!!
Good luck

Answer 9

I'm not going to tell you ,you must forgive because that is bull sh it .If someone has done you wrong and just hearing their name gets your blood boiling then by all means do to him what he has done to you.For all you do gooders out there that believe in turning the other check remember people love to take advantage of you and they will if given a chance.

Answer 10

Hate is a powerful word and so is unforgiveness. You do not have to allow this person back into your life, but as long as you continue to harbor ill feelings and bitterness, this unforgiveness will only cause damage to you. You have to find it in your heart to forgive this person, as Christ forgives us.
This doesn't let him off the hook, but it frees you to fill that place of hate in your heart. If you continue to hold this hate in your heart for this person, he wins....but only because you allow him the power to still anger you.
Forgive and let this hate go...for your own freedom.