My girlfriend is an unemployed 19 year old girl with a 1 year old child who lives with her mother and father.
She wants to put her son in day care so she can get a job and actually buy him stuff with his own money and learn to be more independent but they refuse to let her put him in a daycare since neither her nor her sisters were put in daycare when they were small.
After she had given birth she had 2 anxiety/panic attacks and was put on medication for it which she used only for 4 months and then stopped when she realized it was all just mental.
My girlfriends mother has threatened her several times that she will take her to court and take her son away from her because of the fact that she is a 19 year old girl with no form of income to support the child and has been on medication.
I tell my girlfriend her mom is just bluffing but shes really scared. Is there any truth to what her mom is saying or any place I can get information on this?
2007-01-28 12:39:51 · 5 answers · asked by hitokiribakura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not the father of her son just to be clear. She is thinking of packing her and her sons bags and move out tomorrow to her uncles house(her moms brother) but she is afraid it would cause more problems and her mom would chase after her. I was there today when her mom said "YOU ARE NOT PUTTING THAT CHILD IN DAYCARE EVEN IF I HAVE TO STAB YOU IN THE EYE"
So her mother can TRY to take the child but won't she need extensive proof that my girlefriend isn't fit enough to take care of a child? Besides those panic attacks, she is perfectly fine.
2007-01-28 12:53:30 · update #1
All your girlfriend's mother is trying to do is to see to the well-being of her grandson. There is nothing wrong with loving your grandchild enough to make sure that he is brought up in a loving home instead of a daycare. I realize that this is hurting your girlfriend's pride, but it is a worthwhile sacrifice. I would recommend your GF talking to her mother about getting a part-time job at the least and having her mother watch her son while she works. There should be a way to make this happen if everyone is willing to pitch in.
I truly hope everything works out.
2007-01-28 13:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by drbuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she can take away your girlfriends son unless the child is in danger or being neglected. if your girlfriend is wanting to put her son in daycare so she can get a job and support him then thers nothing wrong with that at all and is entirely up to her and isnt neglecting the child at all. jsut becasue her or her sisters were not put in daycare should not mean your girl cant put her own child into it. as for the medication she was taking for a while it shouldnt be a factor in anyhting becasue she done something about her panic attacks by takin the medication instead of lettin them continue and possibly puttin her son at risk. if her mother continues to threaten to take her to court then maybe she should find a decent paying job so she can put her son into daycare and then move into her own place or stay with someone for a while till enough money saved. atleast then she wont have to listen to her mums threats all the time
i think your girlfriend is doin the right thing and wantin to get a job, and personally daycare can be a good thing for children and helps withther development and social skills.
2007-01-28 12:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by buggles06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the grandma can take legal custody of your daughter, any family member can. You go to court and file for custody. your girlfriend needs to get a job quick or you two need to figure out to get married or not (it looks good in court if the parents are married). then get your own place to live. if her mom is serious, then she needs to move out before her mom thinks that it's her daughter. both of you need to work, pay a daycare if possible, it doesn't work against you in court. but, to be honest with you she should definately try to make amends with her mom because i don't trust daycares at all. i don't believe they are a good option.
2007-01-28 12:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she can, however, she'd better have all of her ducks in a row before she tries..
As for bluffing, moms rarely bluff about something like that for long, but, if it were me, I'd find a way to move out of that household and do what was right for my son.
Good luck.
2007-01-28 12:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her mother will have to prove her unfit to the point that she's mean to her child otherwise she can't do anything people think if you don't work that says it all but it doesn't she can get help to take care of him if she lived alone
2007-01-28 12:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by adkjma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋