I don't mean two people working a nine to five. I mean 2 work-a-holics aspiring for a bigger and better career such as maybe you are a lawyer and she is a software consultant. Both jobs require extra hours, a lot of "networking", and constant education. Yet you have a kid than means one of you has to be home by 6PM to pick them up from daycare, fix dinner, etc.
Can it work? Anyone have success stories where you are happy with your job, your marriage, and your family? Right now, I'm not happy with either.
Thanks.
2007-01-28 12:32:54 · 14 answers · asked by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually, my wife is not a sofware consultant. If that were the case, I could makew adjustments. Actually, she is an aspiring model and actress as well as her full time job. She didn't pick up this second career until after the baby was born. But it's not really a career because it doesn't bring in any real money but takes up a lot of her time and inconveniences me. I'm the real bread winner. But if I tell her to stop, she gives me guilt trips that I am stopping her from her dreams.
2007-01-28 12:50:22 · update #1
Your wife sounds selfish. There is no such thing as having it all and sounds like your child comes last. Daycare until 6:00 ... poor kid. Strangers who are temporarily in your childs life are teaching him lifes moral and values, are you ok with that? Do whatever it takes to change your situation, including counselling. Good luck and best wishes for a happy and successful family life.
2007-01-28 13:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The software consultant can try to adjust their schedule to suit the family. I did that as a dad and it worked well. But keep in mind also that your child is or should be a priority in your life before everything else. If you're more concerned with making money, your family will suffer and you'll have nothing. I adjusted my life for my kids and even started a video production company where all 3 of them worked with me. We had some great times during that 10 year period of our lives and still talk about the fun times we had.
You only get one chance to do family right. Do it right!
2007-01-28 12:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly no - I don't believe it can work out successfully - don't get me wrong - i mean of course it can work but something will always loose out in the end - it is called the balance. Your child will be emotionally lost in the long run despite all the possession he/she has and your marriage will be in ruins - you just need to decide what is more important and whether your family will be there when you have finished
2007-01-28 12:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy because one of you needs to stay home. I tried to work for a while after having had children. It made everything crazy. I am now staying at home. When I get my kids from school, other children who go on to daycare sometimes tell me they wished they could have it like us. Kids want their mom home no matter what they tell you. What can compare to that? No amount of money. Impress your child instead of your coworkers and friends. It will be well worth it.
2007-01-28 12:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My b/f's sister is an investment banker, this involves a lot of extra hours and travel abroad etc, her husband, well I don't actually know what he does to be fair, but he is also away on business a lot and holds a high position within his company, but they are one of the happiest couples I know, married for almost 12 years.
2007-01-28 22:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work for whom? You think the kids enjoy being your last priority? Would you like to stay in daycare until 6pm? Did you?
This lifestyle might be "The American Way" but it sounds like hell to me. Why get married? Why have children? Should have stayed single and busted your butts on your jobs if that's all you wanted to do.
It doesn't work.
2007-01-28 12:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this can work if you want it to.... The mom should be home more for the kid because he needs that when he is young... You need counseling and help for you and your marriage if you are unhappy.
2007-01-28 12:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it CAN work. By both parents doing what they enjoy and living the life they enjoy they are HAPPIER and make for a much HAPPIER family because when mommy and daddy are happy their children reap the benefits.
2007-01-28 12:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't compare success stories about this to your own home life. If you're that unhappy, do something about it. Start right now.
2007-01-28 12:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be room for compromise or nothing will work, someone will get bitter and your child will suffer. Someone has got to give or get out
2007-01-28 12:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋