just finished divorce 5 mons ago.i have a 8yr old son that i have joint custody with my exwife with and i have him half the time.i pay her 15% of what i make(child support) on top of that i pay most(80/20) of daycare cost and healthcare.now this is what the court ordered and i don't have a problem paying this.the problem is my ex with try to guilt me into paying for other stuff like sport stuff,swimming lessons,camp fees ect.now i'm not rich and having a hard time just paying for the child support.when i have my son i buy him clothes,toys ect for my house but i feel that the other stuff should come out of the child support i pay her.please this is all new am i wrong in my thinking?should i also chip in for sport fees,school trips,camps even though i pay child support?
2007-01-28 12:22:17 · 5 answers · asked by jerry6mckenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Absolutely, why not?
2007-01-28 12:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a young person growing up in a divorced family...things like school fees should be paid 50/50...but if she is trying to sign him up for lessons and such that really should be from her if it was her idea. It sounds a lot like what my mom does to my dad, she refuses to pay for anything herself if she thinks that she could get my dad to pay for it. Just tell her if it was her idea then she should use the money that she gets from your child support to pay for the lessons and camps.
2007-01-28 20:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pay what you have to, and the rest use your judgment.
Cause I believe she will try to milk as much as she can from you.
You ask: is it wrong to think that I shouldn't pay for "swimming lessons"
Obviously it's NOT wrong because she already decided it's not wrong on her behalf. It's her child too.
I would see it like this: If she asks you to pay for extra stuff here and there, then she probably can't manage on her own.
But if she asks you to pay for every extra thing that comes up, then it's more obvious she rather not spend her money, but spend yours.
2007-01-28 20:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should both come to an agreement and figure out a budget for extracurricular activitys, is it that your son want to do the actuvitys or is your ex making him so she can make you feel guilty/ I would ask your son if he wants to participate she should pay for the things she wants him to do and you pay for things you want him to do, that is what the support is for him not her living expenses.
2007-01-28 20:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by single473 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the child's place. What would you want your dad to do for you?
If anyone gives this answer a thumbs down, I hope you re-think this before you become parents...because that means that you obviously don't give a damn about your kids. And they're the ones who suffer most/worst in a divorce situation.
2007-01-28 20:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋