recently my wife and I got separated for a couple of months, we got back together and she confessed to me with tears in her eyes that she had a lunch date with this guy but that nothing happened. My question to all of you is that I have mixed signals when she told me this crying, is there more to this than just a simple she went out with someone so she feels guilty yet i feel that there must have been more cause I also recall her saying something about feeling ashamed. So what should I believe?
2007-01-28 12:17:13 · 20 answers · asked by kingkong 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your gut
2007-01-28 12:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should believe her, the reason she is crying because she feels quilty for just going out to lunch, maybe she feels that because she is married that she betrayed you in some form, let me tell you something about most women buddy. If she said that nothing happened nothing happened because if something did she would not be with you because now she would have ole boy to run to and get on with her life with.It was just a friendly LUNCH im sure. And as far as being ashamed thats something that comes from self worth and LOVE for someone else
2007-01-28 20:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by QUTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of woman your wife is. Your wife may have just had a dinner date with him, and if you trust her and she really loves you then you should believe her. What my advice to you is, basically dont convict before you see any more signs. Just let this one stay in your memory but dont let it trash the whole thing. You should let that one go, and see how it goes. After a while the truth will come out and you will know the answer. Don't throw her out or any of that if you are not absolutely sure of what she did if anything. That could basically ruin your life because you threw out the person of your dreams. So, just wait it out.
2007-01-28 20:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Raven Rage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say as I blame you for questioning whether or not she is telling the whole truth. Why the tears and feeling guilty if she just had lunch, and you were SEPERATED? Regaurdless of whether or not anything happened, the two of you were seperated, the problem for me now would be, is she telling the truth. I mean since she chose to tell you something that happened while you were seperated, than she needs to tell the whole truth.
2007-01-28 20:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe your wife...end of story.
Reason being #1 you were separated when she had an innocent lunch date. #2 she told you because she wanted to be honest with you. she didn't have to tell you anything at all #3 if it wasn't innocent she probably wouldn't have said anything.
Take her at her word and be happy she told you at all. You two are back together and working on your relationship. Focus on that. Don't keep stuff going unnecessarily.
2007-01-28 20:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same about it like you do! If it was just lunch and nothing else, the why the drama? Another thing, if this happened while you were separated, then why the feeling of guilt from her side? Or why are you stressing so much about it?
2007-01-28 20:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by denisse1515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, man....she's telling you this, and obviously feels horrible about it an dis concerned how you're going to take it...you're getting back together and she's trying to come clean.
This is what you should believe....it's a clear sign that she sincerely wants a clean slate with you...be thankful that she wants to ensure there are no hinderances to that, and let it go. Or, you could let it eat your insides and get bitter over it, and be right back to the "seperated" category before you know it.
2007-01-28 20:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was crying because she felt like she betrayed you and it may of hurt of you. If she loved you, and she hurt you I could see how this would make her emotional! If you have no reason to doubt she would actually tell you the truth. You should believe her. If she only told you she went out with this guy and you sort of "busted" her, she may of been crying because she was caught out, so it depends on the situation.
2007-01-28 20:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe your wife and perhaps she was afraid you would think like that being reason for her crying and crying also cause she is happy you two are together again.
2007-01-28 20:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe your wife and love her even more now that she is back with you.... Anyway if she was not together with you at the time why should it really matter as you were seperated and not together.
2007-01-28 20:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is sorry for what she did whatever is was and remember she did not have to tell you anything but she did. Drop it and go on with your life together. Remember you can`t forget but you can forgive (if there is anything to forgive)
2007-01-28 20:27:18 · answer #11 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋