Im not suppose to have a boyfriend and my best friends knows that and she told my uncle what do i do?

Question

My uncle swore not to tell and he is very cool he never tells but she knew that i didnt want anyone in my family to know the bad part is she did it twice the first time she told my uncle wasnt really paying us no mind

me and my bestfriend has been friends for 5 years

Answer 1

only say its nothing were just friends. don't give any other answers. that makes it look like your guilty. your friend is jealous . don't tell her anything. and becareful with this boy dont get in trouble . be smart. take care of your self you dont have to go all the way with a boy,to have a boyfriend. dont let him talk you into any thing. be strong stick up for your body and soul. good luck and maybe in time you should ask your family again if you can.and what could you do to show them you can handle it.

Answer 2

just to make sure you are getting the correct read on this, ask you uncle why he thought she told him.
It might be that your friend thinks that your boyfriend is a bad guy. (I doubt this, but it is a possibility).

My real guess is that your friend is jealous of the time that you spend with your new man and sees this as a threat to your friendship with her. If she tells your uncle and he tells your mom, maybe your mom breaks up you and your boyfriend and the two of you are hanging out just like before.

The last possibility is maybe she is just not trustworthy.
If this is the case and you still want to be friends with her you have to tell her that you and your boyfriend broke up and keep that part of your life out of hers.
GOOD LUCK!
p.s Talk to your boyfriend too. Tell him what is going on so that he wont be blindsided if your mom 'somehow' finds out...and he will have already thought of an answer

Answer 3

you know if she does that even once then she is not your friend , when she does that often then she doesn't care about you since she doesn't keep a secret. even if she wanted to help you she should tell someone you won't get in trouble with to guide you. i suggest you stop talking to her and never trust her with a secret unless you want everyone knowing it or you want to get hurt.
as for the boyfriend issue, no guy is worth getting into trouble with your family over, if your customs or religion don't allow you to have a boyfriend then don't have one. if your family rules don't allow you to have one untill you are older then wait for that time . you don't need worries and stress or a relationship that no one knows about and with no one you can turn to for advice. maybe this boyfriend is not a good person , or seems nice but wants to get you into trouble , you won't know if nobody warns you since they don't know you're together. i suggest you talk to someone close and responsible, who can help you and guide you and won't tell any one like your uncle or a teacher or a sensible mother of a true friend and better for it to be a woman to talk about everything honestly. no one has to go through any of this alone good luck!

Answer 4

Are you dumb or what? Those are not your best friends. Best friends do not "Snitch" on you. They are just friends. So, if you hand around them and tell them stuff do not get mad if they snitch on you. You must be born dumb then.

Like Beretta said, "If you do the crime, you can do the time." What that means in your case, if you complain because your friends are telling on you, then you must suffer the consequences. In other words, DO NOT HANG AROUND THEM.

Tell your best friend that you and her are not best friends anymore cuz she snitched on you. She may be jealous cuz you do not spend as much time with her. But in the grown up world, this is not an excuse. Kiddies have to play by adult rules. How do you think you learn?

Answer 5

I think that you should basically relax. If your parents dont want you to have a boyfriend then that is on their fault. Depending on your age (i dont know how old you are) then it may be justified. But most likely what you should do is to relax, confront your friends and uncle about it. Then lay low for a while. Besides (sorry to say this) most young relationships die pretty fast as they are not in the developed state that they need to be in. Because they wish to reinact what they see from older sisters, brothers, ect. So basically i would just give it time.

Answer 6

That's what happens when you tell friends secrets. First thing, never tell someone it is a secret - because the minute you do - the cat will be out of the bag. Second, what kind of friend would do that to you? Sounds like she wants to get you in trouble.

Answer 7

If you want to keep a secret, don't tell anybody. If your friend has proved that she can't keep a confidence, don't tell her any. You can still be friends.
But maybe you should just do what your parents say. You seem to be having trouble as a result of not doing that.

Answer 8

You have two very serious problems here. YOu obviously have a best friend who you cannot trust to keep your secrets and you have a problem following the rules set by your parents.. WHich one of you is more wrong?

Answer 9

If your uncle is as cool as you say, he'll keep your secret. Otherwise, i would ask ur friend why she told your uncle? And if its not an good enough reason, let her go.

Answer 10

get over it. if your not supposed to have a boyfriend...have you ever thought she was trying to protect you? you feel betrayed by her...so have an honest talk with her and try to get through this together. you will quickly find if she is worth a friendship at all. also, it is also better to fess up than get caught. you may consider telling your family if you think your uncle might do it first. good luck with this...