but resently she went 'crazy' and simply insulted me one day and said that I wasn't a true friend to her and she seems me diferently and this and that...really sad of her. Actually she is seeing a psychiatric now! But the thing is I told her that she could be the bride maid for my wedding, but after she said that I said 'sorry you can no longer be my brides-maids.' Do you think I should try to rekindle the relationship.?
2007-01-28 12:08:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ALSO.....she talked a lotta trash about me and behind my sister 's back. B/c she become her new 'best friend'. My mom says she's jealoys, but I'm not the type of person that keeps gruges, I like to mend things and move on? Any advice? I told her that was her dession. FUNNY!!! The day before she said that was the day we agreed we were brest friends forvere and we'd never let nada get in the way.
2007-01-28 12:10:34 · update #1
just the simple fact that you two fight like this shows that she isn't your best friend. maybe she should just be a friend but she doesn't seem like a very loyal or honest friend. i'm saying this because my best friends and i never fight, even when we disagree about something. i would never do anything that would purposely hurt or jeapordize my best friends because they are like my sisters, and if she loved you she wouldn't do the things she does. maybe you should move on and let her go...she doesn't seem like she cares very much about your friendship. she seems like she needs some time alone to get her life back togethor. good luck!
2007-01-28 12:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by nlightnd26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a very common, yet terribly annoying problem on your hands. It's kind of like the common cold. So small, but theres no real cure and it's a neusance!
Well, my advise would be to trust your instinct. If you do that, and you feel like you want to mend your relationship, I would call her on the phone, and start by YOU apologizing. I know it may be hard, and you might be really mad at her, but you you do that, she might become nice and appologize too. ALSO say how what she said to you (about you too) made you feel, and the imppression you got from the wthings she said.
This has a high chance of working.
If she doesnt appologizer and starts screaming again, you should not be friends with her. I know you made BFF promises, but times change! People change. And move on, like you.
If you, however, feel that you dont want to be her friend anymore, unless SHE steps us and appologizes first, I suggest you do other things and meet other people and get your mind away from her.
I know it can be hard, losing a friend, but if you use your instinct, willpower, and kindness, you can pull through!
Good Luck!
2007-01-28 12:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's seeking help then I would give her another try, remember sometimes when people explode they usually do it to the ones their closest too and its not necessarily an attack on you, more just that the person vented but in the wrong way. Be happy and suppotive that she reliezed she has some issues to deal with and if you're a true friend then you should know what to do. Take care and God Bless
2007-01-28 12:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by rosied1968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! 6 years over one probably petty thing. Maybe u won't even remember it in a few years if you try to become friends again. Let her be ur bridesmaid. If she's seeing a psychiatrist, she's probably having problems she might want to talk over with you. She needs you now more than ever. Don't desert her. This is what friends are for.
2007-01-28 12:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Isabela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just had a bad case of PMS and jealously at the same time. If she's a true friend, she will feel bad and try to make up with you. It doesn't sound like you need to try and rekindle things. She does!
2007-01-28 12:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by timswife71099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but shes not a true friend if she turns her back on u and says your not a good friend and if she was nice to u wen u was friends and all of a sudden your not friends and she talks trash about u that's not a friend so my beast advice is to just for give her and then just move on to another friends its not easy but u can do it girl be strong and happy Cus your getting married and didnt worry bout her be happy for your self think of your self b4 u think bout someone that is not your friend
2007-01-28 12:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Uniqu3luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you make an appointment with the psychiatrist?
I am looking for a brest friend, myself.
2007-01-28 12:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. What I DO think is that you should go back to school and learn how to spell. An education is a good thing. You should care how you come across and when your spelling and grammar is so completely off you come across as ignorant.
2007-01-28 12:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey wait a minute....please don't throw away that six (SIX!!) years of friendship because of a one-day fight...maybe you could try asking why she said those things to you...maybe it was just a misunderstanding...
2007-01-28 12:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin Carl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...dump her. She's not a real friend herself if she said all those rude things. Also talking about you behind your back, not bff material.
2007-01-28 12:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by grown n sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋