on the weekends. We dated for three years and I have two children that he has been a part of, but the reason we split is because he started to drink to much now he saids if he's not drinking the children should be allowed down his house. they miss him but I don't know if I should let them go near the new GF she drinks way to much too ???
2007-01-28 11:52:11 · 8 answers · asked by Forsaken Rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No ... your children should not be exposed to alcoholics. Regardless if he is their father, they should not be with him unless he learns how to clean himself up. If both of them drinks, they can both either be aggressive or violent. If he is taking care of your kids, they may be exposed to danger or experience trauma from vulgar language, arguing, etc. It is not a good idea and if he insists to see them, you need to get a court order or move somewhere else. Think of your children first.
2007-01-28 12:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Mui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a recovering alcoholic, I can only pray that my daughter does not remember me when I was drinking. I am ashamed and know that I did not set a good example or provide a safe environment for her to be in. Sorry to say, but you are just as wrong as he is by allowing your children to be alone without you in that type of environment. I gave up my child because it was not healthy for her to be around me until I got sober and healthy. This is a sad situation, and as already said, stay strong and put your children first. Remember, when a drunk talks, it is only the alcohol that is speaking for that person, I know.
2007-01-28 20:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by animalcrackers31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his g/f is setting a bad example for the kids. Tell him if you had a problem with his drinking, what makes him think you're going to be ok with anyone else drinking around your kids? Where's his mind at?
2007-01-28 19:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, the children stay at your house and he comes to them.
Your home is more stable and the kids should be first.
hold to your guns on this. Bad habits can start early so why have your kids introduced to them.
stay strong
2007-01-28 20:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the kids arent his it just confuses them,,i suggest you and the kids stay away from him and the new gf it will just cause problems that you dont want
2007-01-28 20:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by wi1d_butterfly8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are HIS children he is entitled to see them...or would you rather he get a court order to do it?
2007-01-28 21:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for the kids, and I noticed your name "forsaken", do you know that Jesus will never forsake you....seek Him and you shall find Him,. cry out to Him and He will answer.....God loves you
2007-01-28 20:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a circus. If you don't own the property, move... and end your contact with him.... again, sounds like a circus.
2007-01-28 19:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋