Now I feel like I let his family run me off and I feel like a loser. I don't want to be with him anymore, but I don't like feeling like I just gave up. I didn't just give up, but stuck it out through a lot of hard times. Gosh, I don't even know what I'm asking and am sure you don't after reading all of this garble.
I can't be with my husband. Being with him is too difficult, but I don't want to feel like I let his family run me off. How do I come to terms with how I feel?
2007-01-28 11:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It didn't take you as long to leave him as I thought it would. I'm sorry for you and your children that your relationship came to this, but in the long run you will be better off without all of his drama. His family did have a lot to do with why you left-- you know that they were the main cause of your problems. It doesn't matter what they did. What matters is what your husband did to protect you, your baby and your marriage-- he did nothing and now he's left with nothing.
Feel good about leaving and feel good that maybe he'll come around after living his life without you for awhile.
I wish you lots of luck.
2007-01-28 11:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some women find it difficult to think of themselves before others, that is the way it is. If in your heart you know you tried to make the marriage work, then that is how it is. Just accept that and if others tell you otherwise then don't worry about them and have nothing to do with them. Go through the loss process but keep inside the truth that you tried and now you want to move on and no longer desire to be with your husband.
2007-01-28 19:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, YOU left your husband. YOU made a conscious decision to leave. Regardless of what his family did to you, it was YOUR decision to leave. Don't be one of those people who let what others might think or feel about you run your life. YOU are in control of your life and actions, so feel proud that YOU left because YOU wanted to.
2007-01-28 19:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Oh My! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling and help for what you are feeling... If you feel you have done the wrong thing then try to restore your marriage and relationship with your husband... DO NOT let his family dictate your relationship and marriage.... Follow your heart and do what you know is right to do!
2007-01-28 20:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a learning experience for you. Replace the thoughts with pleasant ones. Move forward with your life. Before getting into a serious relationship, know what you want and get to know his family better.
2007-01-28 19:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Morality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me. I totally know what you are feeling. You're just going to have to let it go hun, and move on with your life. Right now, who cares what his family thinks! You are NOT a loser. Let up on yourself, let it go, relax, and enjoy the rest of your life.
2007-01-28 19:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont beat yourself up about it. you stuck it out the best you could and if thats not enough in his families eyes then so be it. its your life. your not living for the approval of his families well being. as long as you followed your heart i dont see you made a mistake at all. time heals all wounds. you will be okay.
2007-01-28 19:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that you DID let his family run you off and you DID give up, you just have to accept it as that and thats it, there is no way of sugarcoating it and making it sound like something different than what it really is
2007-01-28 19:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can start by beginning to live life for you and nobody else. you are probably burnt out by doing and doing and doing and not receiving anything nice in return (i'm not sure cause i'm not there...i'm only guessing by what you wrote). but take it one day at a time and just start putting pieces together for your life so you can be happy again. ok?
2007-01-28 19:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ran you off, you left because you wanted to. His family can deal with all his drama, it's nothing new to them and they know it. And plenty of drama he will give them.
2007-01-28 19:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋