2007-01-28 11:31:32 · 16 answers · asked by Yeah_whatever! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all make sure that you have really been lied too. When you find out that you have been lied to without a shadow of a doubt, I is your duty to confront them. Now personally I will not only confront them, but I will do it very strategically. I like ask more questions and sort of provoke more lies out of them before I lay it all out on the table. I also like to gather proof of the lies so that when I present the facts to them, I leave them standing there looking stupid with their mouth hanging open.
2007-01-28 11:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Oh My! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your significant other says you look terrific in your new pair of jeans, and you're pretty sure they make your butt look big, then nahhhh don't confront him. Hug him up instead.
For a general rule, however, I am firmly behind talking with the person who you've discovered has lied to you. I know for myself if I discover someone has lied to me, even if it's a small lie, I find myself on guard around that person. Lies enrode trust. If they lied about this...then maybe they lied about somethijg even more important.
Of course, I want to know why the person would lie to me. I don't think we ever get a satisfactory answer. Maybe we're just looking for a reason to excuse the lie.
The person who lies has power over the trusting person. I find that so unjust and unfair. And, now I'd rather cut the liar out of my life that suffer through all the emotions and insecurity of not being able to trust someone in my life. If I can't trust a person, then they have nothing else to give me.
2007-01-28 19:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by metaphysical_kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think you should at least ask them first and give them one last chance to tell the truth and come clean to you.... If not then confront them that you know the truth and if that does not work then take them on the Maury show and have them take a lie detector test.
2007-01-28 19:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the position to do so you should cut them out of your life (assuming we are not talking about a 'white lie'). They will continue to be dishonest at the same level.
2007-01-28 19:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you care enough about the situation to waste your time and energies with a confrontation?
2007-01-28 19:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... This your wife/husband, lying about betrayal, or a friend, who lied why she/he was late picking you up to go to a movie together..
2007-01-28 19:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe.... I kinda like to let them stew alittle bit. But it would depend on what they were lying about.
2007-01-28 19:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by booboogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-01-28 19:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by mburleigh8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly confront them, I would want to know why they did it.
2007-01-28 21:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Simply yes.
2007-01-28 19:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Golden Hair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋