I have remained best friends with an ex-boyfriend of mine. It has not been easy. He has done a couple of things that have really hurt my feelings. The pain from what he does is unbearable. It's a twisted, psychological thing going on. And it's killing me. However, he is the only person I am close to here (I moved away from my family a few years ago). I know I should cut things off with him but if I do I will be completely alone. I cannot be here alone. I would have to pick up and leave for good and go to where my family is to get thru this. Does anyone have any advice on leaving something you know you should leave but for whatever pathetic reason you're not sure you're able to? Thanks.
2007-01-28 11:31:29 · 8 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tara,
Have faith in yourself. This man is completely detrimental to your emotional well-being. Someone who could hurt you like that is not really a friend anyway, right?? Walk away. Grant yourself the opportunity to meet new people. As much as it might hurt to be without him, it is hurting you more to be WITH him. And the pain of being without him WILL subside. Believe me, I've been there. Time really does heal the broken heart. Think about it.
Good luck to you Tara. You CAN do this.
2007-01-28 12:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are places where you can meet people besides Mr Unpleasant. Library, church, book stores with reading groups, volunteer organizations (goodwill etc) and then you will not be alone.
Do you have a job? If not, then it may be time to look for one. I know of very few jobs where you do not have ANY colleagues at all. there is always someone around.
Good luck and get on with a better life. Go to Al-Anon meetings for the friends and relatives of problem people, esp drinkers. They are in the Yellow Pages.
2007-01-28 11:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that leaving someone hurts, and getting them out of your life can hurt even more... but he's obviously not good for you ... he's using you to carry on having someone to vent to or take out his rubbish on... you don't deserve that... There are other ways to make friends... some people above have mentioned some ways... but if you really feel alone, and need support then maybe going home to your family is a good idea... it doesn't have to be forever, just until you feel you can cope again.
2007-01-28 20:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your plight but the best thing is to let this relationship expire and find another one that is more benefical to your growth, and the easiest way to get over a bad relationship is to each time you start to recall the good of the relationship you also recall the bad things done in that relationship, each time you think of the other in a good light see them in a situtation in which they are doing something that is so digusting to you that you cringe inside and believe me what you think you feel for this individual you will soon see leave.
2007-01-28 12:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really gotta find the strength to move on and set boundaries between him and you. Talk to a counselor perhaps - sometimes they have answers regular people don't. But also find the strength to go out and make new friends - it will be so much easier to get on with your life if you do.
2007-01-28 11:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by somebody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be there alone in fact you are if he is hurtful. screw him you can pick yourself up dust off and meet mr awsome . now you and i and most of us women have a way of letting men walk all over us needlessly make up your mind and keep your head up .good luck it will be better
2007-01-28 11:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by lil pit cat 71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File it under "you answered your own question". If you dont love him theres no other reason to stay judging from what you wrote. Family is good dont you think?
2007-01-28 11:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew:(
i guess you just have to be strong.
2007-01-28 11:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyChic86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋