should i tell him....?

Question

okay this is pretty bad but , im like 80 % sure im pregnant ... we'v been together a really long time .. if i am ... i know hes going to tell me to keep it ... were both totaly against abortion but ... i think were way to young to have a baby ... i know its not right to get an abortion & not tell him but ...... i really cant handle a baby right now. help ?

Answer 1

I would first go a clinic and get a pregnancy test so you know for sure. And don't worry, they're completely confidential regardless of your age. If you are positive, then you really need to talk to your boyfriend, figure out what your options are (the clinic may help with that, bring him to a followup appointment with you) and then make the decision together. And if you're still living with family, include them if your decision may need their support. Please, please consider abortion very, very carefully. It seems like the quickest, easiest way right now, but once done, it can never be undone. If you are pregnant, and don't feel you can keep the baby, adoption is a very moral option. And if you think you can't support yourself during a pregnancy, medical bills and all that, there are so MANY sources of support out there for you. There are so many agencies, attorneys, couples, churches, people that are waiting to help. And they will hep you figure out what's best for you with living arrangements, legal stuff, family, counseling, financial, etc. Each situation is different so there's lots of options. But talk to your boyfriend, it's his baby too, he has a right to know. God bless you--
BTW-if the pregancy test is negative, get on some reliable birth control! It's free, confidential. Just find a clinic and they will help you.

Answer 2

Its his baby too...so he needs to have a say in what happens. And you shouldnt have an abortion..thats killing your baby. I dont see how anyone could have an abortion, expecially if you are against it as you say. You may be young but, you made the choice to sleep with him so now you need to do the right thing and just be the best parent you can be. I thought I was Way to young to have a baby as well..but now im 27 weeks with a little girl and I couldnt be more excited. And Im 19 which isnt to young but still isnt old ya know. So I want you to read this and then think really hard about it.

Month One
Mommy, I am only 8 inches long, but I have all my organs. I love the sound of your voice. Every time I hear it, I wave my arms and legs. The sound of your heart beat is my favorite lullaby.


Month Two
Mommy, today I learned how to suck my thumb. If you could see me, you could definitely tell that I am a baby. I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though. It is so nice and warm in here.



Month Three
You know what Mommy, I'm a boy !! I hope that makes you happy. I always want you to be happy. I don't like it when you cry. You sound so sad. It makes me sad too, and I cry with you even though you can't hear me.


Month Four
Mommy, my hair is starting to grow. It is very short and fine, but I will have a lot of it. I spend a lot of my time exercising. I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes, and stretch my arms and legs. I am becoming quite good at it too.


Month Five
You went to the doctor today. Mommy, he lied to you. He said that I'm not a baby. I am a baby Mommy, your baby. I think and feel. Mommy, what's abortion?


Month Six
I can hear that doctor again. I don't like him. He seems cold and heartless. Something is intruding my home. The doctor called it a needle. Mommy what is it? It burns! Please make him stop! I can't get away from it! Mommy! HELP me!


Month Seven
Mommy, I am okay. I am in Jesus's arms. he is holding me. He told me about abortion. Why didn't you want me Mommy?


Every Abortion Is Just . . .

One more heart that was stopped. Two more eyes that will never
see. Two more hands that will never touch. Two more legs that will never run. One more mouth that will never speak

I really hope you decide to keep the baby. i couldnt imagine putting my child through this. God bless.

Answer 3

If you can handle the pregnancy, give the child up for adoption. You should tell him, though( that you are pregnant.) That really wouldn't be fair for him, to just take something that is half of his too, and do as you please...If you owned a house together you wouldn't want him to sell it one day with out telling you. Maybe if you can't handle a baby he can...Maybe have the baby and give him full custody, and you have visitation rights...There are a lot more options than you think besides just having an abortion or keeping the baby. There's adoption, & open adoption, he could care for it or you could, you both could, or maybe your families would help you. I would discuss it with everyone, him & your famailies, too. You may be surprised at what they might think! Good luck to you.

Answer 4

God's not going to give you something you can't handle. You and your significant other seemed to have talked about this, or you wouldn't have such a strong opinion against abortion. You need to tell him about your pregnancy possibility and how you will handle having this baby with him. He seems like he will support you through the pregnancy based on what you've said. It's time to see how serious you two really are about each other and your views. You don't need anyone to preach at you, but you do need to tell your guy so he can support you. Don't make a terrible mistake!!

Answer 5

well my answer to you is going behind his back doing something like that can ruin a relationship you will feel the guilt of it all not trying to sound messed up or anything but if u were not ready for a baby there were ways to prevent this from happening and I'm quite sure you know this you need to sit down and talk to him about this i have several friends that tried doing that and wind up telling the man anyway so if you want to keep this relationship u need to tell him about whats going on

Answer 6

PLease give me the baby if you don't want it. I have three little ladies and we would love to have another face to love. But do not get an abortion, Im not against them, and Im not for them. I was very very young when I had my first child, today she is a A, B honor roll student and Im very blessed. What ever you do think it over, talk about it, and never give up

Answer 7

I was in this situation just three weeks ago except my boyfriend knew right away (we're really honest with eachother and close). Although it was an unplanned pregnancy and I was really scared about going through with the pregnancy, I ultimately decided to keep my baby. Don't make this decision on your own... its too hard. You should tell your boyfriend.You need someone to talk to about it. Sometimes talking about it leads to a decision. Anyways, definately tell him; you don't want to be in this alone.

Answer 8

how young are you? I'm 16 and 29 weeks pregnant, me and boyfriend are doing fine. If your totally against abortion you wouldn't even think about doing it. You should DEFINITELY tell him, and discuss what you both want to do even though it is ultimately your decision. And don't forget there is always adoption.

Answer 9

You should tell him. He's the father he has the right to know. The decision to keep the baby is ultimately yours though. Its your body. But indeed you should tell him. Secrets never do any good. They just haunt you or catch up with you later.

Answer 10

You both need to make this choice together. There is never a perfect time for a baby. Fate never gives you anything it doesnt think you can handle. Talk to your boyfriend.