I was going to give them to him after divorce because I thought I was going to see him again and that he wanted them. Well I found out he moved in with his "friend (female)" and haven't heard from him even though he said he wanted to remain friends. Do I have any obligation to send him pictures or is it best just to throw them out? I am only talking about pictures of him and his friends, family ect but they were taken at our wedding. After they way he treated me, It should be ok with just burning them but I think I would want them. I am saving most of them for me because it is the last nice pictures I have of my Dad who passed away. Divorce was in April 2006, so a lot have time as passed. Am I passed the time frame to send them?
2007-01-28 10:37:44 · 15 answers · asked by Freeforever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just sent him email asking if he wants them. If he says yes, I will send him ones with his friends and family only. Some have me in it, but they are mostly his friends and family. I will not make copies of all the ones of us because I would doubt very much he would want those nor would his new girlfriend.
2007-01-28 11:02:57 · update #1
I would contact him or his parents and ask. If they want them, give the pictures to them. If they don't, throw them away. But I think you should at least ask. That would be the descent thing to do. Don't be mean. You just lower yourself to his level. But don't be surprised if he doesn't want them. Pictures don't mean that much to guys. Although his mother might want some.
2007-01-28 10:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, send the pictures out of the kindness of your heart. You don't need to write a message or anything but just send the pictures because it is a nice thing to do no matter how he behaved while the two of you were married. Then get on with your life and I pray that your future is far more joyful than what you have experienced thus far.
Smile! You are a thoughtful and caring person.
2007-01-28 18:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the ones with your Dad in them, and send him the ones with his friends and family, and just leave it at that. If you were to destroy or throw away the pictures, you would be causing un-necessary stress, there is no point in making any more stress than is needed.
2007-01-28 19:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the pictures with your dad in them scanned in and just get him out of the photo. His image can be enlarged and then you can do whatever you want with the photos.
I would just mail them to someone that would be sure to give them to your ex. Just put a note in and say: I found these the other day and thought you might want to go through them.
2007-01-28 18:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding onto the pictures will keep the memories of your marriage alive. Letting go will include cutting all ties. No picture, means no picture to remind you of the hurt you went through. If he wanted the pictures he would have made it a priority to ge them from you by now. They are in your hands and they need not to transfer to him.
Burn them, cut them, or toss them. Just let them go and put it all behind you
2007-01-28 18:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get copies. You may want them some day even though you don't think you do now. Send them. Don't even ask. Just send them with a return receipt requested that he must sign for. This way you will know for sure he got them. If he calls, all well and good, if not...who cares.
2007-01-28 18:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never too late to send them but obviously, if he moved and you haven't heard from them, then he's not concerned about them.
Personally, I'd throw them away. Why re-initiate contact? But, once thrown away, they're gone forever and if you have kids with this man (which I'm assuming you dont' since there's no contact) then you need to avoid antagonizing him.
If you have no kids or any reason to stay in touch, pitch them.
2007-01-28 18:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
at the time the pictures were taken you probably got copies for both families. what's the point now?
2007-01-28 18:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by SEG48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get rid of them- the relationship is over, and he aint comin' back. If you would like the pictures of your dad, just cut those out and keep 'em.
2007-01-28 18:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by horse_maiden19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off course get back the pictures to him, he has right to share the good times, you were together
2007-01-28 18:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by mariaeli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋