we have been 2gether for 10 years married for 7 of those...things arn't the same...we had a fight the other night and he says he loves me but feels nothing for me anymore he just doesn't care....we have 4 children ... i love him but sort of feel the same as he does.....do you make it work for the kids or not???
2007-01-28 10:27:03 · 9 answers · asked by sway137 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you don't try to work things out for the sake of the children but it is a good idea to put forth a great deal of effort so that things will work out for "yourselves". Marriage is a commitment and sometimes the road gets a little bit rough. Even so, if you truly love each other please don't give up too quickly. You might want to try family counseling or get the advice of a reliable pastor/minister who could help the two of you get back on track. Please remember it takes a lot of effort, patience and maturity to hold a marriage together but if two people are willing to doing so it can definitely turn out very well. Good luck!
2007-01-28 10:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on whether you can live with him til your youngest leaves home. Theres probably going to be alot more trouble as the years go on though. This is probably only just the tip of the iceberg thats to come. Its definitely not going to be the easiest of situations to go thru even if its for the kids sake. Sometimes doing it for the kids sake is exactly the worst you two can do for them. Itll do more damage than a divorce will, cause the kids as they get older will see right thru you both and then youll have more challenges to contend with especially if they feel your problems are because of them. Try it for awhile and if things get too bad, then bail out real quick before it becomes a total disaster, and things get real ugly. Good luck
2007-01-28 10:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A GUYS POINT OF VIEW ! ! ! ! !...........................................love should be enough to keep things together...but its not...children are no reason to stay together...this will only make one or both of you hate the other...then the children WILL be caught in the middle...then theres another problem...there are many divorced people out here that they still love one another deeply...but they cant stand to be with eachother...you can try councling...but if this dont work then you need to reach a mutual agreement...but make sure the children are taken care of by both of you...my advise is try and work it out...but if you cant then im sorry......good luck....
2007-01-28 10:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you both agree, then sit down together and talk about it and decide what to do. I don't think that it is ever good to stay together for the kids. Kids are smart and they see a lot more than we think they do. What kind of message would that give to them. And how miserable you both would be and they would see this.
2007-01-28 10:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people give up on marriages much too quickly. Four kids in 10 years is tough going but you guys owe it to these children to make it work. They will thank you for this one day.
Read Dr. Phils link on "Calling It Quits"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/23
2007-01-28 10:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is too precious to wait. Your children will be happier in the long run if you are both happy, together or apart.
2007-01-28 11:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get over yourselves and focus on the children.
2007-01-28 10:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you try everything you can to try and heal this marriage and relationship... If after all that there is still no hope then and only then do you end it.
2007-01-28 10:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Argueing is normal, no matter what relationship people have, argueing is normal, sit with your husband and talk, pour out your heart to him.....God bless ya
2007-01-28 11:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋