Why become so "locked-in" committed if you could stray? Is this always a bad thing? Some would say, "Well, if he's willing to do this to his fiance'/wife, then who's to say he won't do that to you?
But look at Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. He never knew he would fall in love with another woman. He just happned to meet Angelina after Jennifer Aniston. Does that make it bad? Is it Angelina's fault?
I just want others opinions! Because it seems more and more that commitment such as engagement or marriage don't mean squat anymore...
2007-01-28 10:22:14 · 6 answers · asked by Lizzie T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear, sweet Frankie:
If you had any form of intelligence outside of the computer screen you are sitting in front of, this is an INFIDELITY question, NOT a CELEBRITY question.
Being that this is such a vast community of different people from so many different places, I figured the best reference to use would be a celebrity reference. You got it, right?
And for you to think that every single person from all walks of the earth should get all of their intelligent reading from The National Geographic is so small minded of you.
Why don't you pick up that magazine, read it from front to back over and over again and become a hermit in your mother's basement.
You shouldn't be answering questions if you have zero relevance towards them.
Idiot.
2007-01-28 11:12:07 · update #1
I can see what you mean by straying.Is it a good thing or not? I do believe that if the person is not happy,they should say something to their partner.If the partner is not willing to talk about his/her feelings and come to some kind of agreement or solution to correct it,then make a decision to leave relationship or put up with it.
If you happen to meet someone in work or socially I suggest thinking it over first.Is it worth ending a marriage or engagement??
I strongly believe that honesty is a big part in a relationship.Once that trust is gone you will never get it back.(with yourself and with others)
I can understand temptation but the person should look over their relationship.How could it be improved???Why is it this way?? What can we do to save it???
If the person is not willing to work on fixing the relationship with you then at least you tried.Then leave.Being honest with yourself is the first step!!!
There are people out there that value commitment and trust.You must demand to be treated that way from the start!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 11:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by virgo woman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple - people who are mentally healthy enough to commit, and secure in their commitments, don't cheat. I've been with the same guy for over eight years, and had opportunities to cheat, but I can't even make myself contemplate it. At the end of the day, I want to be with my husband, and that's IT. When he comes home and gives me that "I'm so glad to see you" hug, that feels right. It's not that I don't notice attractive men - just last night at a nightclub, I had a couple of split-second "You're cute-You're cute too" sort of eye-contact moments with men, but it went no further than that, and never will. If I'd been a single woman I might have tried to strike up conversations with either guy, but now, good-looking men other than my husband are window dressing or museum displays to me - pretty, but totally off limits. All I ever wanted and needed is already right there on my arm.
Some couples obviously have some little essential element missing; consideration, desire, tenderness, passion. People like that just cry out for some third party to come along and complete their incomplete unit. But I'm totally contented with my little unit, so as such, there is nothing left out that needs the attention of some other man to fix.
That said, Brad Pitt is such a self-centered loser. He knew damned well that Jennifer Anistom had committed to millions of dollars' worth of film contracts, but he had to have a baybee NOOOOOOOOOOW, and to hell with what it did to her career. What a jerk - it sounds like he had zero respect for Jennifer. Good on her for kicking that baby-obsessed Neanderthal out of bed!
2007-01-28 10:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Guernica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they are selfish and not happy with what they have in life... They are looking for greener pastures BUT remember the other pasture is not greener it is just more grass and if you take care of your own lawn and pasture you wont be looking elsewhere now will you? You should not even be engaged or married if you cannot commit and mean what your vows say and what you promise to do til death do you part.
2007-01-28 10:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like this they blame the person they are with for everything maybe it the caveman in them and they need a new cavewoman to control
2007-01-28 10:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you....i think maybe the men are all going thru midlife crisis's but at diff.ages lately! they just do NOT appreciate what they have.....just want what they DO NOT have...that does not make it right....
as for angelina- she KNEW he was married. nuff said.....
2007-01-28 10:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go read some more national inquirer
2007-01-28 10:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋