.......you know that any future relationships you have won't be as meaningful to you because you're permanently damaged, and you've lost your ability to abandon yourself completely to another human being?
Sad, isn't it? : (
2007-01-28 10:11:28 · 16 answers · asked by spun_up_06 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes! and It's so hard to trust again! so now when i date a guy i go in with the mind first, and leave the heart at home!!!!!!
2007-01-28 10:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the word is... broken hearted, but perhaps... open minded. My past relationships have always taught me something about myself that I need to work on. I've learned from my mistakes and I know what I want or don't want. I won't ever do the same thing twice again that's for sure.
I do think that maybe my heart has toughened up each time to, so it takes me longer to truly trust and give my all into a relationship.
The relationship I'm in now has been really healthy for the both of us. We are learning how to love each other despite the realities of relationships. We have been real honest with each other about how we feel and how hard it is to warm up and have given each other the space needed to build that trust. We have both accepted the ex's as possibly being a part of each of our lives.
He moved from Boston to be with me and the truth is he might very well decide to go back. And I can't hold him from that. He has family back there and he might need to travel often to see them.
I guess what I'm getting at is as long as you are upfront and honest about your situation and what you want out of a relationship, then you absolutely have the chance of having perhaps even a more meaningful relationship then you ever have in your whole life.
Good Luck to you.
2007-01-28 18:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way at the time but I have been with a man that I love more than I ever loved the other guy for 12 years married and 14 years dating
2007-01-28 18:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I am now married to a man who knew what I had been through, and he thinks I'm worth it. When I was in the middle of the heart break, I thought there was no hope and I would never trust anyone ever again. It will always be a part of you, but does not have to define you.
2007-01-28 18:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by RebeccaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know about how deeply scarred i will be. i just got dumped by bf three weeks ago and i swear that i will never abandon myself for anyone again. i learned that you are your own best friend and you do anything to keep your relationship with you. because you are the only person that can help you in times of great desperation and need. so i will never abandon myself ever again.
2007-01-28 18:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once I heard that your first love is your true love cause after that person all the others that may come you will probably be with them to forget the previous one.... i suffer a lot with my last love... i thought that my pain wouldnt go away but now i met someone who is wonderful and just great!!.... i hope you will too!!!
2007-01-28 19:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Alecita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i havent been in a good relationship since my last major one. i dont really want to since it wont be the same guy so i cant even be bothered with it.
2007-01-28 18:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very damaged, but mending. It takes time and honesty. I'm not perfect, but neither is anyone else.
2007-01-28 18:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,
i have loved, i have been loved,
i have duped, i have been dumped,
i have wanted, i have been wanted,
i have longed, i have been longed for,
i havent lived long enough, but i sure have lived...
here's to love and love lost...
2007-01-28 18:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by music-is-life-as-we-know-it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over it, it just takes time. you can fall in love more than once.
2007-01-28 18:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋