I need a beak!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I am dependant on my husband, my husband have finacial problems, loan, credit card etc..
I am trying to do some savings these days, my husband life style is very different from mine, however after a fight yesterday, my husband admitted he will go for a day near the beach, even uf he doesn't like water, and small cabins, he said to me: " he became home kind of person, he likes to relax at home" and he said: " I have to get back the sense of going out"
plus my husband is doing e-business, advertising at home, all day especially on week-end, he learning. He is doing that because he non longer want to have a boss above his head, because of his boss.
He even told me he will do business from home full time when he sees this thing is working better than his acual job as an accountant.
I had one misscarriage last year 2006 during my studies, and I was studying full time, my husband was supportive staying with me at the hospital, after the cleaning operation, he was very supportive and he promised me that this miscarriage will stay confidential.
During summer break, my husband took 2 weeks off during chritsmas, he didn't get out for the whole break, he asked me to be supportive and patient, he need to set his e-business first.
but I asked him to go for a cheap holiday, he said he can't.
now, after the 2 months passed, I stayed at home most of the time, I was bored, there is nothing to do if you stay by yourself, I feel insecure, anxious, stressed out, I fee very sick, I am depressed now
yesterday, I blew out all my frustrations my talking loudly at night with my husband, I went through a fight with him, I said to him, I ca,t cure myself from head ach, I can't sleep, I keep thinking and worrying, I have headach, this will affect my studies in my final semeastre.
I need recharge! I gave him an example: how the computer sometimes is hot and slows down whe you use it alot, a human being is the same, e should know that, but he really thing that I am holding him back, after all the time I spend more with myself, he didn't bother thinking and suggesting to go out from this boring cycle at home, I cook everydaym wash the plate, clean the house, and give my heart to him.
he threatened me after the fight yesterday because I was yelling and embarrassing, he was going to hit me but thankfully he didn't, instead he went back to the Internet and made a reservation for me and him for one night, a cheap stay at a holiday place.
you can see on his face the "I don't like this outing" when I said I will prepare the bag.
I said " I am sorry for yelling at you, but I am frustrated and I am not enjoying my life since I came to Australia, you don't take me out much, I am isolated socially, that is hard, we didn't have honeymoon after our wedding, he claims that he spent alot of money for our wedding.
I don't want to live with him anymore, he doesn't appeciate me, and he think I don't appreciate what he did for me so far.
last night I slept well, but In the morning I felt he still sad becoz of the way I communicate with him.
I know that I am not perfect, but I need a solution to live happily with my husband, he is hard to control.

Answer 1

Wow that was a long one. It doesn't sound like your working outside the home but do some kind of studies (whatever that is), however there is a lot of time left to be bored and depressed. Somehow you blame your husband for not meeting people, for your depressive state, your frustration etc. because he is working all the time and starting his own business. Wrong, he can only do so much to make you happy, the rest is up to you. Your frustration and your demand was probably not the best timing and there are other ways to get what you want. While your away or when you get back I would have a serious talk with your husband and work things out. Make yourself happy first and ask him to set aside some days for just the two of you, be reasonable and don't demand. Marriage is team work and nobody is the boss.

Answer 2

You have to help yourself find happiness, you have to decide that you WANT to be happy. It sounds like you BOTH need some counseling, really. It appears to me that he is trying very hard to launch his home business and to make it work. You are busy and are deep in your studies. You BOTH are worried about financial problems. You BOTH need a break. I know it was for only one night, your holiday stay, but at least he did that. Hopefully you had a nice time.....you never said. Seek some counseling......if he refuses to go.....then it's time to think of yourself and move on so you can be free to find the happiness you long for. Good luck to you...

Answer 3

ok...it seems to me that you and your husband may be opposites. and i will explain...you are an extrovert while he may be an introvert. you need to go out while he feels the need to stay in. i say start by getting a part time job or even a full time job. no matter what part of the world you are in...you need to have your own source of income. living off of loans is not the way to to because it will catch up to you in the end and when you least expect it. some men dont like working for other people. it's their pride that will not let them get that job. you did not mention any children (except for the miscarriage). you are lucky. had you had a child aready then your situation will be worse than it is right now. until your finances become more stable then i would suggest for YOU to practice birth control. not him. practice birth control until you two are more financially stable. if he is hard to control then stop trying to control him. start getting activies for yourself and stop worrying about him. you need to get out then its up to you to get out. seek out your local news paper for some fun activities that you can do to go to so that you can meet people and make friends.

Answer 4

Seek the advice of a marriage counselor

Answer 5

I know that God does nt want you to give up, this really works, cry out to God and He will answer you.....God bless ya

Answer 6

wow, I don't know where to start.

Go to family counseling and get help.

Answer 7

Why do you need a BEAK? It reads as if you need a divorce.