Ok, we have 2 children together, but they are adults and don't live with me...they live on their own. We were married for 13 years, He wanted the divorce, but I filed because he said that he didn't want to take the heat for being the one that filed. Even to this day, he will call and tell me that he wasn't expecting me to answer the phone. Then he says he can't remember why he called and he'll call me back if he remembers. He sent me a wedding invitation (which I thought was tacky-I didn't go). And he NEVER even mentions his wife's name-EVER. I don't know what his game is ...if it is a game. And NO! I do NOT want him back, I just don't underatand his behavior. We are cordial to each other. It was a pleasant divorce...if there is such a thing. He has never needed my approval for anything in the past. What do you think? I'm trying not to read anything into it, but it's awful strange.
2007-01-28 10:05:51 · 11 answers · asked by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like he's trying to stir up jealously with his new wife. Maybe she has an ex that she still stays in touch with, and it bothers your ex. He feels jealous and is thinking about using you to make his new wife see how he feels.
He doesn't really want to stay in touch with you, but he wants the ex to see that he called you and know that you got an invitation.
The whole thing is immaturity on his part. Keep doing what you are doing and don't pay attention to it.
2007-01-28 10:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 23:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has some unresolved issues he is trying to clear up before he gets married. I think its a combination of that and anxiety and cold feet. I think he's trying to drag you into his mess and you shouldn't let him. You should be a friend and listen if he has anything to say, but do not let his actions affect you emotionally. If he is unhappy in his current relationship and he's looking to you for help, it is HIS issue to deal with, remember that. If you and his wife are not on a friendly basis then it was tacky to send you an invitation.... but actually, if your kids are invited, that isn't tacky at all.... you are family!!
You can't understand his behavior unless you ask about it, why don't you? Hell you were married for 13 years, what have you gotta hide? =)
Good luck.
2007-01-28 10:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he may still love you, and regret the divorce. I'm sure that his wife doesn't know that he calls you. Since your children are grown up now, there is really no reason for him to call. You can tell him that. If you want to continue to be friends, then maybe he should make sure his wife now is cool with that. He also may just want a little side sexual action. Be prepared for that, he just may ask you. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-28 10:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He still have feelings for you or just want his ego sugar coated. He might think you still want him back..Next time he calls, maybe you should talk to him and tell him that you have moved on and hope he did too. And that you just dont want to be friends cause you feel uncomfortable...
2007-01-28 10:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are thinking too much. Let it go and whatever the reason who cares? Maybe he just wanted to see if you still loved him. If you would have gone that would have told him that you were happy for him. I wonder what he is thinking now.?
2007-01-28 10:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a guy thing, don't try to understand it. He thinks he's doing the right thing, no matter how wierd it seems to you or actually is. It is what it is, so just let it go.
2007-01-28 10:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were married for a long time and maybe he needs to let it go. That doesn't matter though, because he's remarried.
2007-01-28 10:11:23 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he may be creeping back in for "booty calls"
2007-01-28 10:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello....do you need to be hit over the head...he still loves you
2007-01-28 10:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋