I feel like I'm constantly attacked by my friends because they seem to degrade me and think I'm someone else that I'm not. They treat me if I'm some arrogant freak.For an example, let's say I got a 98 on a test. I would be fairly happy with it, but I am always a type who wants to learn from mistake and make sure I don't make it again. So I would be a bit concerned with it because I know that even though 98 is an A+, you can always find a way to improve and stop making silly mistakes. But my friends think that I'm being arrogant, thinking that I think that I'm smarter than I really am. Then they'd say, "What if you really /don't/ have the ability to get it correct?" That really hurts me because I know I /do/ have the ability(I know that sounds a bit arrogant) but I need to fix my attitude. In general, I do not want to be better than anybody else but I just want to improve and stay that way. Now they think I'm some crazy competitive freak and it really hurts me b/c I know I'm not! Help?!
2007-01-28 09:59:17 · 14 answers · asked by bloop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Darling you hang it there and you try and be as smart as your goal is to be. We are here for ourselves. Not them. Friends family and lovers are here to only support and love us for our frienship and love. Who we want to be as individuals is up to us and with the support of our friends we can achieve the best with the best positive sources.
The old sane goes....
You become who you hang out with. You hang out with rich people you learn how to become rich. You hang with gansters you join a gang. You hang with straight A students you achieve high. You hang with the smart you learn things you never knew.
So if your friends who you call them as decide that your efforts for yourself are too high for them to accept, they will stay the way they are and never achieve higher and as for you do you really need friends like that. Your the leader of the pack and it seems there the jelous ones. I gaurantee others will look up to you and follow your lead and wanna be like you. Don't we all wanna be the best of the best?
Please don't waste your time telling them how you feel or trying to work something out because I promise you they wont change and you will get sucked in and hurt. Find a new group who is like you.
2007-01-28 10:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Daniell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but THOSE people are not your friends! A little friendly teasing is already but they're going too far.
I also disagree with you some.. 98/100 is absolutely wonderfu! It's an A+ -- what more do you want? 100/100 is still going to be just an A+; those two marks really won't matter all that much.
As long as you push yourself to do the best you can, everyone should be happy. Your friends might be jealous, but you're only fueling the flames when you say you KNOW you could have gotten 100/100.
Hope this helps.
MaybeLater_x
2007-01-28 18:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like as a group they feed on you being a prig, perfectionist, and you give them a reaction when they go into attack mode. For instance there are things I dont mund people knowing about me, if I tell them one on one. But I dont like my personal business to be open forum iin a group gossip.
Try taking the attacker, after the fact quietly to the side, asking them to come over to the side telling then you want to tell them something( as in confidential) manner. That will change the tone of how the information is treated. Tell them you want to talk to them about something away from where everyones eyes and ears can hear what your talking about it. Give it a try till you have worked through the whole groupand you will notice a change i'm fairly sure.
2007-01-28 18:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by jigadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what you think...everyone makes mistakes, honestly, and ITS OK!! On the other hand there is nothing wrong with wanting to learn from your mistakes as well. What you should try to do is find balance. Be curious about that one question you got wrong...but don't flaunt and parade it around everyone. There are tactful ways for going about this. If you are cautious to other peoples feelings they will be less critical with you. Good luck!
2007-01-28 18:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey those are not friends those are people who have you around to make themselves feel better, i hate to say it. there are some people out there that are just so insecure with themselves that they have people around them that they can verbally, mentally and sometimes physically attack so they feel "bigger" about themselves. kick them to the curb and make friends with people that will congratulate you on a 98 and that would help you with things and not put you down.find friends that will except you for the intelligent person you are.those other "friends" don't deserve you. good luck and i hope you do find better friends that appreciate you.
2007-02-05 14:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by ber-ber21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they ask you, " What if you don't have they ability to improve?", they're really referring to themselves. Instead of obsessing over a missed point, try offering to do study sessions together.
2007-01-28 18:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax ur not a competitive freak just a no mate loser who puts education before everything else and wants to go hav some fun instead of bien so obsessive...
2007-01-28 18:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by purple_ronnie_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they may do this because they dont understand who you are... still be their friends just dont bring up situations that will eventually get you both into bad moods.
2007-01-28 18:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by iloveyou! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real friends should understand you and not question your actions, they could think your a grade groveler, but you just want to be the best you can be, you should talk to them and say real friends support you no matter what
2007-01-28 18:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends. I wouldn't call them that. Find some true friends that will love you for who you are, even if you change.
2007-01-28 18:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋