I have been friends with this girl and some of the stuff she does is very irritating. She judges a lot of people based on their weight, beauty and other superficial things. I have this feeling, that she really doesnt like me, but thinks i'm rich and uses me for stuff. And I feel like she's never there for me, to listen to me, but i'm always there for her. I also never feel comfortable telling her any deep things..
2007-01-28 09:53:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you are unhappy with this friendship. You have seen the way this girl says mean things about other people. You have listened to her and helped her. I hear that you feel short changed in the relationship since she doesn't reciprocate. You also doubt that she likes you and suspect that she's using you. You don't turst her.
It sounds like you are not getting what you want and need out of this relationship. In my book, she does not meet the definition of a true friend. She sounds more like a narcissist.
Kind regards.
2007-01-28 10:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit back and see if the 'friendship' is true.
Realizing there is a problem is the first step.
I know alot of people who feel like they give and give and give. Not necessarily money, but time, a sympathetic ear, and genuine friendship, without any in return.
some people are just users, and there is nothing that you can do about it. You have to choose if they are the kind of people you want to have in your life or not.
I am currently wondering if one of my friendships is true, or if it was a information seeking mission.
time and patience, and keeping your eyes open and mouth shut usually does the trick.
You need to find that special friend that you feel would keep any secret, no matter what it is, and always stick with them. I would love to have many friends, but I think it's better to have one or two TRUE friends, than 10 'fake' friends.
2007-01-28 18:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your explanation I would say your just friends and not best friends.
Best friends (true friends), will always set aside their own needs to help, will listen, will offer advice but will never judge, will never spill your secret and will be there always. You have some qualities but if you can't divulge your deep secrets then there is not the deep trust you require in a best friend. Very few of us have a best friend, there are just way too many back stabbers out there and your friend may be one. That doesn't mean you should just drop her but rather be leery of what you say to her.
2007-01-28 18:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely isn't a true friend. This girl is using you! That isn't what friends do! You shouldn't be friends with her if she's treating you this way....friends don't treat each other like that. Just tell her what she does to make you think this and tell her that you don't really wanna be friends anymore. You don't need someone like that.
2007-01-28 18:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same with my friends so i think that she is not really ur true fren juz a normal fren true fren is always there for each other and understand each other and be able to tell that person everything..
2007-01-28 18:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by xMemoryx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the way you said it.. it seems like she isn't a true friend.
Maybe you should talk to her about the way you feel.
2007-01-28 17:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being her friend.
2007-01-28 17:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by lexmark_z_35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋