2007-01-28 09:49:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
alcohol. Yeah, selling their stuff would be good, if i didn't have morals. But alcohol isn't so hard to come by
2007-01-28 09:54:20 · update #1
Intervention. Get the family involved and the closest friends together and help organize this. They need treatment.
2007-01-28 09:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Addictions are a strange thing. They get a grip on some people and it takes that person who has the addiction to want to stop, then you can help. I have had several alcoholics in my family and I have watched them one by one either want to get help and are recovering still to this day. And I have some that have passed away and never got away. You can only be brutally honest and hope that they hear what you are saying. And let them know that when they are ready to get help that you will be there and even attend the anonymous classed with them.Once they get there and get comfortable they won't need you to attend anymore, they make friends that have the same problem that can relate.
2007-01-28 18:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Ala-non will have alot of information for you to get started.
Search for it online- its a resource for family and friends of addicts.
For situation specifics, I need more details on your friend. But alot of it is just supporting them, letting them know you are there for them. See if they want to go to rehab, offer to drive... there really isn't much you can do to help them besides the normal considerate things you do for any friend... and I guess it takes more patience and understanding.
This is kind of an obvious, but do not be an enabler. Do not let on that they are funny or amusing if they are drunk or high, don't let them feel like its a good thing at all. I know my friends would find it hilarious when I was high. I would go to school and spend the day mingling and everyone would give me so much attention over it, I feel looking back it only encouraged the behavior. Do not cut them out of your life, be there for them when they need you or when they are sober, but do not promote the abuse.
You actually didn't state what they were addicted to, that info can change alot of this advise.
2007-01-28 17:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your friend about it and express how much you care about them and that they need help?
If so, they have to want to help themselves first... If they do want to get help all you can do is support them. You can't be their parent.. Most addicts will fail time to time its a given.. You just need to let them know you love them but don't be an enabler or make excuses for them(Tough Love). Let them know you have faith in them, point out the good side and positive things in them and they are worth more than the lifestyle they have chosen. Never criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging at them.. Because when that happens it gives them a motive to their addiction because they are weak... I am a recovered Alcoholic...
And remember to be like a reflector to their addiction(don't get so caught up in it, you can only do so much)and not a magnifying glass(Don't get burned buy stressing out, depressed, don't let the burden way you down, etc.) Addiction life is like a roller coaster..
2007-01-28 18:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You an talk till you are blue in the face, but you will not help anyone till THEY admit they need it or want it. This is where the friend is in denial that their IS a problem. If they keep saying things like "I can stop whenever I want" or "I can handle it", they will not be ready to be helped. This is unfortunate as they DO need it and just don't or won't acknowledge it. Only thing you can do is keep an eye on them as best you can that they don't harm themselves or others with whatever they are doing(driving drunk, etc.) and hope they don't go to jail over it either. BUT, you are not their guardian either. You can only TRY to make them realize they need help, offer support etc. If they get so bad, you may be able to have them committed under what is called a 302.(involuntary committment to a mental ward). This is drastic, but if it means their life, do it. You can always turn them in to the cops too, but they will face a host of other things as they get the help.
2007-01-28 17:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't help someone who has an addiction problem! They have to want to help themselves! I just lost my sis-in-law to addiction and I tried to help her alot. The only thing you can do is offer your support, but tell them what they need to hear when they are down and out! They tend to listen more then. Life is really hard for some people to deal with and they feel there is no other way to handle it.
2007-01-28 17:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the level of addiction and how badly you want to get involved. If your friend doesn't want help, you have two choices. Leave them alone, or intervention.
2007-01-28 17:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to have a conversation with them about your concerns, but you really can't help an addict until they are ready to help themselves. Just be there for them when they need you.
2007-01-28 17:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by sczingal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them that as a friend you want them to get help and go to a doctor be willing to offer support
2007-01-28 17:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
intervention with friends, family and a qualified counseller. Its the only way
2007-01-28 17:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by MinkeyMink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋