This is not my current partner, but a good friend who I care about. I've not described how she let me down because it would seem petty, but important to me, and she'd know that. I'm not angry, just confused.
2007-01-28 09:47:44 · 11 answers · asked by Lost soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh dear...
If she is a very close female friend you must ask her that. It is a toughie as I assume you have got a current partner and this lady is your friend?
The fact that you are friends and NOT partners, despite her feelings for you, makes the dynamics awkward for her, and you, I guess.
She may feel that she doesn't owe you, as you do have your own partner.
She may feel you have someone else to watch your back (not let you down) and not think it a big deal if she is not there 24/7?
WHY do you fret about it? If you two are FRIENDS then you need to discuss your feelings about this with HER. It is what friends do, afterall.
And I understand you are not angry but are confused. I put it to you that you are confused about more than her behaviour in this instance. I believe that you may be confused about where her role as a friend begins and where it ends. Irrespective of her feelings for you. That you mention it makes me suspect that you count on her being more "available" than a normal friend would be and that is not a healthy state of affairs for either of you (and I include your partner in this!).
Talk openly.
And don't be confused- life is complicated enough without that!
Good luck to you all.
2007-01-28 11:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she wishes she never told you how she felt coz she may now be afraid it may affect the friendship you guys had.
Perhaps she is embarresed and cannot face you.
Perhaps it was a spur of the moment claim and she regrets it coz that may not be the real way she feels.
Perhaps she is confused and on the fence.
Perhaps she is waiting for you to take the next step.
Who knows!
Best thing I guess... is to call her up and ask her to join you to go do some fun activity... not coffee or movie as that means you two would have more time sitting next to each other.
hang out n see what happens. she may say what's bothering her.
If you guys are friends... these things can be easily sorted out.
:) have faith in her.
2007-01-28 13:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tashamster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this female friend has strong feelings for you and she knows you have a current partner then she can go no further without someone getting hurt, that is perhaps why she is avoiding you.
2007-01-28 10:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to distance herself from you because you are with someone else? If she has strong feelings for you she maybe isn't handling the fact you are already in a relationship. The only way you'll find out for sure is if you manage to talk to her.
2007-01-28 10:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she knows she has let you down and is feeling a little embarrassed about the situation. Give it some time then call her or wait until she calls you.
2007-01-28 09:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Buffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering that your currently in a relationship and she claims to have strong feelings for you, you should understand that it would only hurt her to try for more with you if you cant give all to her.
you should be thinking of the person that you are with instead.
2007-01-28 09:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused speak to your current partner about this situation,and I promise you the confusion will go away.
Of course you are confused, I am not surprised,and justbremember speak to your current partner and your confusion will go.
2007-01-28 10:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have same problem but other way round my male friend is ignoring me and wont talk to me i just keep sending messages and hope he realises i want to talk just dont give up keep trying. claire x
2007-01-28 10:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by claire j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same kind of problem with a guy. I have just ignored him. If you check my profile the question is. What's up with him?
2007-01-28 09:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's probably because she has strong feelings for you that go beyond friendship. She's acting out passive aggressively.
Yeah, we do it sometimes.
2007-01-28 11:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by vegetable soup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋