Domestic relations/child support?

Question

Can someone explain. . .
My wife left me over twelve years ago, moved to another state and received welfare for a period of two years. I was never contacted about support and ended up paying child support plus arrears. My daughter is now 18 and married.

I recently found out that I still owe my ex (not the state) over $10,000 in back support twelve years later? My ex remarried eight years ago and I have since paid off the state of KY for the welfare she received.

My belief was that I owed for the welfare she received and support for my daughter up until the age of 18/21 if in college or until she (my daughter) herself got married. Am I missing something?

Answer 1

I would contact a lawyer if I were you. The back pay is supposed to stop after they turn 18. My friends father didn't pay child support for quite some time, but he started to pay back what he owed for a few years. She recently turned 18 and moved out, so he no longer has to pay.

I may be wrong, but I don't believe you're still entitled to pay the MOM anything. The daughter is 18 and married, so she's on her own. You may be required to pay for her college education, but nothing can be paid to the mom because she's not supporting her daughter anymore.

I would definitely speak to a lawyer about this!

Answer 2

Your ex-wife must not have sent you papers that she was obligated to send and lied to the courts about sending them! I really don't know about the state of Kentucky, every state is different. I live in Michigan and the non-custodial parent only pays for a percentage of the medical to the State and the child support seperatley. It sounds to me like you are getting ripped off by the State! You need a lawyer to answer these questions for you! I would also call the Friend of the Court that serves your county and ask them whats up with this! A lawyer is going to know more and tell you the truth on what you can do on a legal standpoint! Request a copy of your file from Friend of the Court. You might have to get it from the actual Court House in your area. They do charge a fee for copying the file, but you will need it.

Answer 3

If are on welfare you have to get a child support order and the father.If you dont pay all those years it goes in arrears.I dont know why you wasn't contacted unless that couldn't find you.Most of the time they do get a hold of the dad and go after him hard.That is good you payed the state off.AT the same time you will always owe the mother back support until that's payed off.That is right u have to pay child support , until she is of age your daughter.SO it will always add up and you will always owe.SO there is nothing better to do then pay.You are very lucky u didn't go to jail over that cuz they don't play when it comes to child support.Your best bet is to make plans to pay your back support and if you still have pay child support start paying......

Answer 4

Generally, in most states, child supports ends when the child turns 18 or 19 (depending on the state), or if the child gets married, joins the military, or dies. If they continue to college, the custodial parent must file a "post minority" support petition to receive support until the child turns 21 (as long as the child is still in college at age 21). This is just general information, and I HIGHLY recommend you talk to an attorney well versed in these issues as they do vary from state to state. Good luck!

Answer 5

well the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. thats also why the states and federal government passed stronger child support laws; they are tired of people not paying for their own children.

the old trick of hiding out until the child is 18, is over (they are on to it). your child(ren) could be getting married, are parents themselves by now, but you will still owe. the taxpayers are paid back for some, you have a balance due the mother now. she paid for all, now you have to chip in... in your case... (from what you say) $10,000.

so, your wrong.
it added up, not went away. its time for you to pay for YOUR kid.

btw, if you dont pay, the fed's will get into it.

http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/

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Answer 6

That is just the state requirements. You are not missing anything but can contact a lawyer if you disagree with anything.