He pretended to have serious Cancer and hid all info from me. I am in shock as all our friends and family thought he did. He tricked me all this time because he SAID he would lose me. Now, I am sure he has and I am embarrassed to tell everyone. His daughter and Family were fooled also. I want out and am using this info I know to keep my home and car. I worked hard for all i have. It is fair right since he decieved me?? It took awhile but i got the truth. Also he pretended to be a Vet which is a major lie!! Only my two kids know!
Any input would help tremendusly!! I try to be a good christian but feel this is how I should work my way to freedom. I put him ahead of all for like 90% of this time!!! I was so minipulated!!!!
2007-01-28 09:18:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He obviously loves you and also has enormous insecurity issues. If you love him, get into counseling immediately to figure out what issues he has and work through it. You have a child together and you must also remember the issues with her too.
"Being a good Christian" means nothing as there is manipulation a plenty in organized religion. Instead, look within yourself and ask yourself what would cause him to tell you such an outlandish lie.
We all tell ourselves "stories" about certain situations - and the ones that he is telling himself have to be very disturbing. You owe it to yourself to get couples AND family counseling with your daughter. I can only imagine what is going on with her right now.
2007-01-28 09:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe it! I have heard everything now! How can he face anyone after getting caught in a lie like that? And to lie about being a vet. My god is this man completely nuts? You need to have him go and give you and your kids time to think and get yourselves together. Tell him while he is gone (move out) that you want proof that he is attending metal help groups and seeing a therapist or you don't even want to talk to him and stick to it. If he would lie about something like that then he should have no problem with your request. Just think of all the other things that he has more than likely lied about. If this isn't a sure sign of how sick he is I don't know what is. You may even want to go to the terapist with him and make sure he tells her/him what he has done. That is if you are considering trying to work things out at some point. Wow I do feel for you and your kids, but now is the time to use the power he has given you and demand that he gets help. Please keep us updated I am curious to know if he gets help.
2007-01-28 09:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember the story in the news about the guy in Utah who told everyone, including wife and family, that he had been accepted in medical school at UNC-Chapel Hill. Then everything kinda came apart when his wife found out?
His lies and maninpulation led to the wife's murder. He is now mentally incompetent and in prison too.
Now I am not saying that your husband is that crazy, but he could be...and there is a very good chance that he needs evaluated mentally. He could also be dangerous.
Save yourself more pain. Run away and make sure that you legally do it too. This man has something wrong with him. And even if you are the best christian in the world, God didn't say that you should be used and manipulated.
Move on.
2007-01-28 09:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of in specific circumstances all of us get caught up interior the lies that are syndicated television shows the place each little thing is often satisfied and if mommy and daddy have a combat, they have it worked out by utilising the time the instruct ends. the reality of the concern is that married existence is complicated and it does take 'at some point at a time' in specific circumstances to make it by way of. i do no longer think of your husband has given up, i think of he's as at a loss for words approximately what a marriage is meant to look like as you're. additionally, with a clean toddler, issues may well be very stressful and loopy. as nicely, a great form of the attention you at the instant provide to the hot toddler became as quickly as given to him. for many men (myself lined), that's a unfavorable marvel to awaken at some point and discover out you at the instant are no further the middle of the universe. Please see a counselor. in case you have a church, your pastor or somebody interior the church can regularly help. in case you have scientific insurance, in specific circumstances they're going to help pay (mine will). If neither of those innovations are obtainable, in line with danger you would be able to desire to call a women individuals's center and ask if there is somebody they might propose that would desire to furnish you a deal on counseling. the significant element to comprehend is this; you comprehend there's a concern for this reason that's incumbent upon you to realize this. in case you do no longer something, you will probable sense sorry with regard to the determination for something of your existence. God bless and sturdy success.
2016-11-01 12:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Debi,
you need counseling and help to try to get past this pain and what this has done to your life and marriage... Call your church and talk with your pastor about this and see what the pastor has to say and what advice they can offer you and ask for lots of prayer... See if your husband is open to going to marriage counseling with you.... He did this because he had issues in his mind and he felt he was going to lose you for some reason .... Sounds like he has a very poor self image of himself. May i also recommend the book the Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Ormartian.
http://www.marriagetoday.org
http://www.drphil.com
2007-01-28 09:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband also lied saying he had cancer while in jail he was even crasy to get his hair shaved i don't know how he could shave it in jail but some one did it for him thats not nothing to lie about my mother really died from cancer when i was 18 im 58 now older than my husband
2007-02-01 03:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He completely lied to you, but if you're planning on using this to "get back" at him, then all you're doing is hurting yourself. Use the lie as the basis for leaving him, but not as the basis for what you are "owed".
2007-01-28 10:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds mentally unstable I'd get out as fast as I could .
2007-01-28 09:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋