There's this guy at my gym, he's actuaaly a trainer there, and my problem, is the fact that I don't know if he's flirting with me or not.For instance, around christmas, he came up to me and asked me how my holidays and I told him it was okay, then he asked me, who did I spend it with.And then there was another occasion where he came up to me and told me I looked sad, and wanted to see me smile, and as I was leaving asked me when will I be back.I'm thinking , well maybe he's just being friendly, but he's always telling me to text message him for trainer sessions, and i told him several times, I'm a broke college student, and I cannot afford them, but he's still asking me to told me to call him for this free session, so I asked him why was he offering me the free session, and he said because he does it for people he connect with so anyhow, I finally showed up for the damn session but I was late, so he's like when can you come in and I told him next friday and he's like why so
2007-01-28 09:17:03 · 7 answers · asked by Trish T 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
cont) when I showed up for the session, he's pressing me about why can't I do the "Free session" tommorrow..he's like why does it have to be so long, and I 'm thinking damn this is a free session..so why are you pressing me so hard....and he sort of gave me the third degree about being late...he was questioning me about why I was late..and I told him traffic, and he's like okay you get a pass for that one..damn am I tripping or is he...
2007-01-28 09:17:35 · update #1
Then,...he called me while he on a sunday after church about the free session...is that normal..
2007-01-28 09:18:12 · update #2
Are you sure he's not gay? He sure does sound gay
2007-01-28 09:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little obsessed... Back up a little and tell him you're really busy or infer that you have a date the next time he wants you to come in for this "free session". Nothing good comes out of a guy being too clingy or controlling, you don't need to waste your time dealing with that. Good luck with this one
2007-01-28 17:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Toni5818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with balijohn2. The trainer is a little too pushy. It sounds like he's trying to corner you and he's desperate. Join another gym, if you can, or go in when he's not there. Don't give him your personal information such as phone number or address.
2007-01-28 17:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, In my personal opinion he sounds like a user and a control freak. What does he want if he knows you can not afford a trainer? It sounds like you already know the answer, you aren't getting good vibes. Go with your instincts. Have a great day!!
2007-01-28 17:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd avoid this guy like the plague! If he's this controlling and you're not even dating, can you imagine what it would be like if you did go out with him. He sounds like a pushy control-freak. I'd find another gym and let the owner of his gym know what's going on.
2007-01-28 17:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ways he's pushing you it sounds a little 'abnormal' to me. Sounds like more than flirting and I would be wary if I were you
2007-01-28 17:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by balijohn2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hot for you but wants you to show him some respect.
2007-01-28 17:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋