Do you believe that what goes around comes around?

Question

My wife of 15 years had an affair and it costed us our marriage.she is still with this guy it has only been about 3 months.I hope he cheats on her so she can feel just some of the pain that i am feeling.is that wrong of me?still hurt and still in love

Answer 1

Karma will catch up and who knows what may happen to them!!! It's only been three months and life is a long bumpy road for the both of them. Most likely, she will be running back home with her tail between her legs. Then what will you do?

Answer 2

i absolutely believe in karma, and we do get paid back for the wrongs we do to another, but don't dwell on it too much. she will feel the pain but the chances of u seeing or knowing it are slim. but whatever she did to u will come back on her twice as bad. just know that u weren't the one who cheated, and betrayed. sometimes we need therapy to undo the hurt that we got unjustly, so we can understand it wasn't about us, or anything we did. we do have to move past it, and begin a new life, and try to forget that person, because chances are if she did come back that it wouldn't be for any of the right reasons anyway. everything happens for a reason and we have to accept it, and see it for what it is. it does take time, it's a process we must go through, where we finally accept it and see the person who hurt us for who they really are, and not who we thought they were. when my ex left me for her, i was devistated, told him he would not be allowed to be happy and live his life the way he wanted to, becuse of the cruel way he did me, just talking saying whatever came to mind, because i was hurt, well he now has terminal cancer, don't know if the homerecker is still there, and he lost his job, his truck, and had to move into a small mobile across from where we once lived, he has to see that house every day although it belongs to someone else now, i am sure he does have his regrets now. good luck

Answer 3

If you didn't feel like this I would think that something was wrong!! You feel used, abused, neglected, but above all your trust was misplaced. It is only human to want somebody to "walk a mile in your shoes" so they realize exactly what they did & the impact those actions have. There is no wrong or right when it comes to being heartbroken; we all react in different ways. This feeling might pass as you move on with your life or you may always love your ex but ask yourself this : "was it all worth it?". What's to say you don't meet somebody months from now & those ill willed feelings slowly go away. Give yourself time & the self-respect you so well deserve!!!

Answer 4

I don't know for sure if it ever comes true but we can only wish it does.My ex cheated also and was doing it for two years before I found out.Anyway we separated and she got pregnant a short time after we split by this guy.It's now been 6 years and he is up to his old tricks.I'm not sure about her but my kids seem to think there's something she's not telling.Like you I was hurt and wanted her to feel what I was going through.I believe that if you live a bad life it will catch up with you later on so maybe your right.Let's hope so anyway.

Answer 5

Darlin" karma is a strange and powerful thing, but the karma may not hurt her, but it could come back in joys and gifts for you. It is so very possible that everything you've ever really wanted and needed is 3 weeks down the road. But cosmically speaking don't ever wish hurt on another for that leaves karmic residue in your soul. Which could come back and hurt you again. Be light and even though it's hard pick yourself up dust yourself off and be positive.
Don't waste one second of your time hoping for revenge, your giving her to much just thinking of her. Your gonna be fine.

Answer 6

I feel for you. It will take years to get over that kind of pain, I know. But rest assured, she'll definately get hers... this loser may not cheat on her(but I bet you he will) but somewhere down the line she'll get the bums rush and she'll wonder why. But you reap what you sow, without a doubt, and she may think the cancer in her breasts is a bad hand dealt to her, but it will merely be a piece of humble pie she can't send back. The one thing about this is whether she can recognize it as punishment for what she's done, so she can learn not to make that mistake again. But if she doesn't recognize it, she won't learn, and will continue to be punished until she does. So there ya go. Find a real sweetheart and make love to her on your exwifes front lawn. Just as a reminder for her!!!

Answer 7

I am a firm believer in that. I see it all the time and it happened to me several times. Not the cheating but I have way in my past left someone because I said I couldn't handle the kids any more and guess what My daughter is now 16 and ten times worse than they were! I learned from that one. And I hope she learns too.I don't blame you in the least for how you feel.

Answer 8

Yes what goes around comes around but this does not make wishing this on someone right... You should divorce her and move on with your life but wishing revenge and bad things on her is not a good thing to do as 2 wrongs do not make a right... I hope that over time you can forgive her and let this go. You do not really love her the way you should if you are wanting revenge in your mind.

Answer 9

I certainly HOPE it comes around to several lowlifes that I know. I would include your ex in that but I don't know the circumstances so I will try to reserve judgment on her behavior. Of course your wanting her to hurt like you do is normal but you really have to try to move on. Would you really want her back, knowing what she is capable of? I have seen a lot of people who cheat get cheated on later and they are always so surprised!!! Find someone you can talk this out with...priest,,,counselor...wise friend.. and then get out there and LIVE... there are some great women out there just waiting to meet you.

Answer 10

Its normal. But try not to waste your energy and emotions on a lowlife like her. It will come around to her, but by the time you hear about it you will have moved on with your life and it will be just a funny thing you heard about in passing.

Your not in love with her, your in love with the person you thought she was. It hurts because that person you loved didn't ever really exist, it feels almost like they've died.

What will hurt her the most is when when she wants you back, she will find out that you've moved on.