Am i a fake person?

Question

I had these 2 friends that i was quite close with, untill me and my best friend discoverd how they talk behind eachothers back and are very sneeky and sly, we contiued being friends with them but had to watch what we say around them, after a few years i got tired of all the deception and covering up and getting caught in my lies infront of them and looking like an *** all the time, i decided to cut those 2 off completley, no phone call or anything, and i wouldnt see my other friends if those 2 were going to be there, this happend about 5 months ago. and finally i felt so guilty of how bitchy i was that i emailed them and apologized endlessy for my behavior and that i wanted to be friends, i didnt hold any grudges and truley forgot everything. and only one emailed me back and turned the blame all on me as if i didnt have a reason for what i did. should i try to rekindle it again or let it go? i truley miss them and love them, but im scared that they still didnt change there sneeky ways.

Answer 1

Sorry about what's up between you and ur buds.

I think you've done enuf and it's time to move on. You don't have to completely ignore them, but forgetting about them would do u a world of good. If they really wanna get along with you, it's their turn to step up to the plate and show you that they're aren't playing games anymore.

You're a good person and all (although you might be a little naive; watch out when you go on and on, justifying your actions ESPECIALLY in an email) so I'm not going to say u have to draw a line. Instead, my advice to you is to be truly open not just with yourself and to those 2 friends of yours, but to the rest of the world. If you wanna think about it, all the time and energy you spend worrying and trying to fix your relationships with them becomes wasted with regards to what you could do for, or with, somebody else.

There are plenty of opportunities in the world and there's no absolute need to be perfect, so understand that you can do a lot more by not worrying about them anymore and that when you start helping out others, you won't feel obligated to resolve this matter any further.