I am very femmine and only attracted to butch or soft stud women. However I dont like to recieve oral @ all. I would much rather give it. Which ***** up my sex life. What do I do? HELP
2007-01-28 08:56:42 · 6 answers · asked by spidy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sounds like you're a femme lesbian invested in the butch/femme dynamic who doesn't care for receiving oral sex.
As far as I know, we don't have labels that are quite that specifc yet (thankfully?). You don't say if you like penetrative sex, or manual stimulation of your genitals. If you don't like being touched much really, or being penetrated, but prefer to act the agressor and give to your partner sexually, you could call yourself a stone femme that is attracted to butches (oftentimes, the attraction to butches is a given, and you don't have to specify that).
As far as your preferences messing up your sex life, you have my sympathies. It is hard when butches usually assume the role of an aggressor and sexual top and want to do everything to you, but often not to be recipients of the same. Fortunately, although it's still sort of a secret, there are quite a few butches you enjoy bottoming, or just being the recipients of oral sex ("pillow princes", we call them). If you can find yourself a butch like that you understands and appreciates your stone femme identity, you can have a great, healthy, fun sex life. Even if you aren't necessarily stone femme, a lover should understand you don't care for getting oral sex, and you guys should just do whatever is comfortable for both of you.
Hope that helps you, and I sincerely hope you can find the boi of your dreams to fit your sexual preferences perfectly.
2007-01-28 12:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soft Studs
2007-01-28 18:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by asexystudd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself this question. "Why do I not enjoy receiving oral sex? "
Seriously. I can imagine not wanting to give it, but not receiving it is a bit odd. But, just because it's odd, does not necessarily mean it's a bad thing either. You need to ask yourself what kind of sexual pleasures you actually do enjoy. What kind of things interest you, what kind of partner you feel comfortable with, what kind of things you'd like to explore.
What kind of lesbian are you? Yourself!
Be proud of who you are, be comfortable in your own skin and don't let anyone else tell you what or who to be!
2007-01-28 17:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
go to an adult 'toy' store, and then watch some movies to learn how to play with those toys. and the question is what kind of woman are you? i couldnt imagine not recieving oral sex!!
2007-01-28 17:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by psychologistnovelist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i knew a girl who is some what like you...she would never let her gf touch her or give her oral sex..why I'm not sure, she told me she likes to please and she gets pleasure pleasing her gf...well if you dont like to receive oral do u still like to be touched in the private areas even if its not a tongue?...maybe that can be a start let your partner touch you in away you like and keep it moving to where you feel comfortable.
2007-01-28 17:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As is often the case, just_ine_credible has said it best: be yourself.
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2007-01-28 17:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by abetterfate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋