Well first of all let me explain something.
Every weekend my old best friend from highschool would invite me over to spend the night because she's bored and wants to spend time with me. She lives with her boyfriend and she doesn't drive. Anyway this afternoon she called again and asked me to spend the night because she'll be lonely without her boyfriend around because he has to take his aunt home(that's two hours away and he won't take his girlfriend along).
Well my mom said to watch out because I'm getting involved in a relationship I'm not supposed to because I got college to worry about and blah blah. Is she right? What do you think?
I stay on top of my studies and we're both 22 and 24 and mature.
2007-01-28 08:49:33 · 11 answers · asked by forbidden_love500 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
And my mom says she's always inviting me over when she's lonely and bored and that's a warning sign. Is it?
2007-01-28 08:50:15 · update #1
What does it mean to be involved in a relationship?
What are the signs of being involved?
No she's straight,
2007-01-28 08:55:36 · update #2
Mom knows what she's talking about and you are certainly getting involved in this relationship whether you want to admit it or not.
2007-01-28 08:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your old enough to make the decision of weather or not this friendship is worth being involved in or not. I just hope this friend is not using you for your car, and a warm body to have while her lover is away. As long as you don't let this relationship consume you and distract you to much from your studies, you sound very caring and responsible, I'm not all that worried about this. Mom's over reacting a bit....
2007-01-28 16:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that your mom thinks this woman is a lesbian?
I think you would know if she was since you spend so much time with her. If you are comfortable with your relationship don't change it. If you are becoming uncomfortable or it is changing your life in a way you don't like, then change the nature of your relationship.
As a side note I would interject that it sounds like her boy friend might be cheating on her. Won't take her on a 2 hr drive? C'mon.
2007-01-28 16:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rackjack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL MOMS are often right.. simply because they have been there done that before.. (but they arent gonna tell you that)
same with old farts like me... anything you can even think of I've already done 10 times over (and for the stuff you havent even thought about yet i've done 4 times over )
But yer of age... do as you will... someday you will be having a conversation much as this with yer own offspring..(I just want you to remember that time when it comes.. mark this note in yer day planner)
2007-01-28 16:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's hard for us to accept that our parents seem to know things - then in hindsite we realize they did & we should've listened. There have been many times i thought i was plenty mature enuff to make choices & only after it was too late did i realize i really didn't know nearly as much as i thought. Keep in mind that your Mom has lived & experienced much more & that has honed her 6th sense & ability to read ppl & situations. Just talk to your Mom, about the specifics of her concerns. And instead of staying the nite with your friend, why not just go over & hang out a while then leave...this limits your invovlement while still being there for your friend.
2007-01-28 16:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you guys are good friends, I think you should start letting her know that you have other things to do (even if you don't). Like your mom said, she only wants to be bothered when he's not there or when she's bored. Don't cut her off as a friend but just draw the line.
2007-01-28 16:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by dani_girl57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you mom is right in a way you do need to work on your college studies,but you can do that and have fun at your friend's house, just ask her if sometime during the night that you'll devote to yalll's studies together. then you can have fun but,i would stay out of the relationship because it can cause some problems.good luck
2007-01-28 16:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by hot blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's nothing. i've spent tons of time with my best bud when her hubby went out of town, we both take a couch and do the girl talk thing until late then we sleep. perfectly innocent. anyone who thinks thats wrong is just wrong in the head.
2007-01-28 16:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well not to be mean but it sounds like your friend isnt really a friend. she should share sad and happy moments with you and not just the sad. your mom is kind of right. just tell your friend that you dont want to get between her and her boyfriend
2007-01-28 17:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by rissalove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her crutch. You have moved on in life, but she has not. I'm afraid that this friendship is onesided, and you are being used.
2007-01-28 16:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋