Instead of finding someone perfect? Is it worth just finding someone 'great and wonderful' and marrying when its convienient just to be married, or to wait as long as it takes, if ever, to find perfect?
2007-01-28 08:39:50 · 9 answers · asked by radiancia 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Not necessarily perfect as in qualities, but perfect for you.
2007-01-28 08:45:53 · update #1
I was going to ask a similar question but I was worried that the respondents partner might read it. I'm not married, but if I was I wouldn't until I was as sure as I could be.
2007-01-28 08:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by samootch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as perfect. Human beings all have some shortcomings. I think compatibility and having interests in common are the most important considerations. It helps to have similar upbringing and religion. Sharing the same values and ideas about how to manage money and raise children. Unfortunately, all people really consider when they are in love, is sexual compatibility. That's important, to be sure, but it's not the most important thing, because if it wears off, which it usually does in time, or at least becomes less important, there has to be something much more than that to keep a marriage going. But if you spend your whole life looking for the perfect individual, you just might remain single all your life, because "perfect" does not exist.
2007-01-28 08:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find someone that's perfect for you. It doesn't mean they are totally perfect. I once dated the perfect girl for me. I was almost certain I would marry her. However, we were too young, I at the end of college and she at the beginning, so it didn't work out due to circumstances and her stage in life.
You should never settle in marriage. If you do that, you usually end up getting divorced. It has to be almost crystal clear to you that you're marrying the right person. But will it be the same for the spouse? Hopefully.
2007-01-28 08:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better just to settle when you find someone compatible. Then you can stay home and save all that money you would have been spending on dating if you hadn't just married the first thing to come along. Me on the other hand..I'm not going to settle.
2007-01-28 08:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by crazylifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it was none of these reasons i married now allow me to explain to you how it goes!
In order to be truly married there are things you must know .
that you should not be emotionally attactch to the one you plan to marry but they should be soooooooo in love with you that they are willing to keep you happy and content and out of respect and worldly love you can do the same and remain emotionally sane throughout the marriage and you then grow to love them which makes it all the better for the future you begin to see their value and worth and you respond with kind
this is how it goes!!
2007-01-28 08:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness no! There are all sorts of wonderful women just waiting to be scooped up. The best of both worlds is easily within anyones grasp!
2007-01-28 08:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best reason to marry someone is because you love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him and no one else.
2007-01-28 08:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was deemed perfect became that which was undisclosed in the beginning, I liked my spouse for who she was and who she could be, found out in the end it was not meant to try and make someone into something they are not or control them, but better to adjust over time and rediscover our newly evolved partners or face conservative problems and divorce due to inflexibility and dogmatic approach
2007-01-28 08:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by voice_of_reason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's perfect. I strongly suggest you wait to get married until you figure that out for yourself. Otherwise, you will be sorely disappointed.
2007-01-28 08:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋