im scared to open up and talk to the girl msn contacts ive made incase they reject me?

Question

i have such low self esteem and am so lonely. that rejection from anyone, especially would kill like a knife blow to me...i live alone in a small flat, battling mental health problems. i have no friends because of my low self esteem and my psychological probs. ive made a few contacts through myspace and added them to msn..but im scared to go online and start talking in the fear, my insecurities, and low self opinion submerge, and they reject me. sometimes the worst rejection you can have, is if they do it nicely.. like they delete u from there msn without saying goodbye and explaining..then your left with that cold and alone feeling..and emptiness...how do i face this, does anyone know?

im 29 and have had so much pain in my life. i dont feel anyone will want me

i get very clingy and needed with girls. and rejection, when someone doesnt want you. cuts like a knife

Answer 1

Don't worry, my friend. Look at yourself in the mirror and believe in yourself. Heaven helps those who help themselves. Just chat!You can start by withdrawing that nasty leviathan photo and putting a pretty photo in the box. then go online and talk about the best things in life, like love, a kiss, a smile, laughter, children, etc. You will surely get a romantic partner who'll appreciate your company and friendship. Just be happy and chat happily.

Answer 2

Here's how you handle it. EXPECT TO BE REJECTED ...and take the attitude "So What!" when you are rejected. Everyone gets reject at least once in a while, but then get back up out of the gutter, and try whatever you are trying to achieve again and again until finally you are accepted. Hardly anyone has ever achieved success without failing first, and usually failing many times over.

In fact, I was rejected 65 times in my second job search until I finally got the job I wanted. Each time, I stuck each rejection notice on the wall and tried again....could have wallpapered the entire wall with rejection notices.

When dating in college, if I asked a girl out and was rejected, I'd put an "X" on a drawing of a plane going down in flames...and then asked someone else out.

Also, no matter what, be true to yourself....BE YOU. Do not do or say what you think that others may want you to do or say. Those, who reject you...so what. Those who accept you for what YOU ARE will be your true friends.

Answer 3

Well that's pretty easily overcome. Send me an email, but here's the basics. You know you can add details as we talk and so can I. Yahoo Answers is almost like instant messaging. Anyway there's two things. One is a lot of mental problems is people who are gifted, but don't understand what's happening to them. I might could help. It would be worth a try. Number two is that I had that and I found out that it's thinking about a problem or yourself too much, you just have to think of something else and put all your attention on it and then put all that loose energy on the positive thing also. Feelings seem to be mostly loose energy that gets free from thinking of questions too long instead of answers. Odd but something like that is going on in me and most people, if they notice it.
Well anyway, the end of the story is, if you do that you end up too arrogant because arrogance is the other end of the same stick as shyness. Arrogance is thinking too much about yourself too. It's not that you don't have to take care of yourself, but it's not a chore, it's supposed to be a joy an act of love.
On the other hand you have to connect with your intuition, subconscious or whatever you want to call it. Not so much your worries, but if you ask a question, pay attention to what it says back. Track it down as to why it's saying that because it will sound so dumb, it's the answer you usually pass up real quickly, that's the one. Find you stupidest thoughts and you should have it. Allow a little room for mistakes, but that may be a good practice to pick your dumbest thoughts and see what's really behind it. Turns out it's always right so you always know the truth about things, including yourself if you do that. Wait until you find out that you have greatness inside of you. Come on, haven't you suspected it? Well it's true, we are just disconnected from our right brain and connected to the dumb brain we think is the good one. We are too connected to the bad side. Kinda funny, but science is proving it out and I found it out from experience. You have a real advantage over most people, because the meek shall inherit the earth, Most people are to smug to listen and will miss out and you'll have it all over them., because you probably do already. You'll see how stupid they are. The're just amimals, but maybe you've noticed already. Be kind to them, they're just dumb animals and don't know any better. The subconscious is five times more powerful and human and effective than the conscious mind, five times the man we are. LOL ha Embarrasing, but that explains feeling like nothing, I mean how would you feel if you other half was five time better than you. The good news is that you are in charge, but that's little consolation. Oh, and if you haven't heard all this, things are breaking fast in science, now that people are getting five times the brain power and creativity. It also puts us all on the same playing field, no one is better than anyone else. That's the truth, like it or not. Except for the animals of course. The people who do Answers are real people.

Answer 4

Man,that`s sad.
1If it`s true don`t bother about that just say nice things and(they don`t know you)won`t delete you
2If this is fake(which is more likely)i tell you to get a life and stop imaging things dude!

Answer 5

man, get out of your comfort zone and live a little. remember in the long run, its always better to get rejected then to live the rest of your life never knowing at all.

Answer 6

wow.... uhhhhhh.... wow idk what to say to that...