i never say no to him- should i?
2007-01-28 08:09:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would feel just the same as you - I would probably never initiate ever again.
2007-01-28 08:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you don't want to! Maybe he just has less of a sex drive than you, I know it is hard to believe, but they are out there. And men who are in the mood all the time, I think are more likely to cheat.
Take this scenario, for example,
My friend had a fling with a married man, they made out and fooled around, etc. He wouldn't go all the way with her, because he wouldn't be able to go home and do it with his wife. She asked him why he couldn't just tell her he wasn't in the mood, and he said that in 20 years of marriage he has NEVER turned her down and that would make her suspicious! So she probably is thinking that she has a perfect sex life, when in reality, her man has such a high sexual drive, that he can't control his urges to fool around with other women.
My point here is just that you are in a normal relationship, and normal men actually aren't "always" in the mood, especially when they get older. There has to be something wrong with a married man who has been with the same person for a long time, and is still always up for sex. Everybody gets turned down. Don't take it to heart, just get a vibrator if it bothers you that much! Heck, he may end up getting jealous of the thing!
2007-01-28 08:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I can't really imagine a guy saying no because my fiance never has said no. But, if you're not in the mood when he is, tell him. He obviously thinks you'll understand when he isn't.
2007-01-28 08:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's a man it doesn't mean he always wants sex. It has nothing to do with you. He might be stressed out, tired, just not feeling it. Try not to get angry~~~ it just makes things worse. Please yourself and remember a marriage shouldn't be about how much sex you have, but how much love you share.
2007-01-28 09:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he doing when you ask? Is he sleeping or watching a game perhaps? Are you asking in a provocative way? Change your game a little he should come around.
2007-02-01 04:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
maybe next time you do it and it was not really what you were wanting at the time after just say hey you know i did this because you asked it was nice and all but sometimes i just do this because you ask. hint hint
2007-01-28 13:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being sexually neglected.
Any spouse that tells their spouse "no" is not fulfilling their vows.
There's a group for people like us - SWAGE
p.s. I am so sorry for you.
My spouse tells me no, and I've been without sex for over two years.
2007-01-28 08:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't say "no" to him, just to get back at him. You should never use sex to get what you want. It may come as a surprise but men sometimes just DONT want it. (Hard to believe, I know) But if he says no, maybe just ask if he can hold you for a little bit instead, or cuddle.
2007-01-28 08:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi dear, please dont jump to conclusions immediately.
I'm sure he loves you.
He may be actually very tired after a long day.
Make sure he EATS well.
Do not RUSH him into sex.
Talk to him about his day, serve him good food, relax with him and just let him flow naturally.
Goodluck!...
2007-01-29 02:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Pusky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the meaning of this "NO" word you refer to.
I am a guy and I have never heard this terminology before.
Seriously, next time he says no, simply tie him up and have your way with him all night. :)
Do guys really say "No" ?????
2007-01-28 09:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋