has a seperation made your marriage better and refreshed?

Question

did you have time apart and then got back together and made it work?

Answer 1

Yep, but I don't think separation is a good thing for most marriages. We were only separated for two weeks and that was long enough. You have to decide if you want to work hard, and go to marriage counseling to make your marriage better. I don't believe that months or years of separation is the answer. You might as well get a divorce if you are separated for that long. You have time to get a place, get on with out your spouse, cheat, and start a whole new life. I don't think that people need space, but I think that you need to communicate your needs and your wants and work hard. It can all be done under the same roof.

Answer 2

I was with my husband for 7 yrs. we will be married 3 yrs March. We have 2 boys together. Our relationship got out of control. He did not appreciate me anymore. Of course maybe I did get shitty alot but b/c I didn't feel like he treated me right and he didnt care about our relationship anymore. I could never leave him I always thought "life without him is impossible" I told him I was done with us all the time and he always told me "you know what to do about it leave me then". Till the time came when I actually did it. We have been seperated for 7 months and after the first month of being seperated he has begged, cried and pleaded to get back with me. I said no, no, no.. I wanted to make sure it just wasn't a thing that would last for a couple months then go back to the way they used too. We have been back together for a couple of weeks now it has refreshed alot of things.. Let's just hope it sticks..
They always say " You don't know what you got until you lose it."

Answer 3

During my marriage of 20yrs we separated twice and each time it was like a 'honeymoon' when we got back together - for about 2 weeks then it just went back to how it was before we separated.
So when he left the third time I decided to see if I could stand on my own two feet & cope, it wasn't easy at first but the longer I stood my ground the easier it got. Eventually I met someone else, my ex didn't like it because it meant that the door was finally 'closed' but for me it was the best thing I ever did

Answer 4

Personally I have to say that our trial separation turned into a permanent one. My ex and I had a trail separation, we did get together a couple of times to share some time in the biblical sense but that only lasted a little while before we realized that we were better off apart. But I am certain that there are happier ending to this story as well as many with my ending.

Answer 5

in my own experience ,No ...A separation is not the best choice for a marriage....most likely you will have more problems and then some. You will have doubts about cheating issues,etc...It also causes pain to the person being left and abandoned....I would advise couseling first, try learning to communicate and really work on the relationship....i did that to get my mate to stop and look at his abusive behavior but instead he went online and is now lusting after a woman he says he wants a relationship with her....

Answer 6

No, I actually think the separation, and time away from each other made it harder on us when it was time to give it another try. We never fixed the problems that we were having instead we just got rid of them , then had them all over again when we got back together. Now we're getting divorced.

Answer 7

After my seperation it has only made me doubt things more and I got used to having my own space and freedom.

Answer 8

But the trial separation worked
........ended up
in a divorce case

Answer 9

I cant answer that one.. I've never had a LTR in which the seperation wasnt permanent (and thers yer answer)

Answer 10

I have never known a 'trial' separation work.