2007-01-28 08:07:30 · 22 answers · asked by jls0788 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
AHH!! yes...def file for custody...have someone test her for drugs too.
2007-01-28 08:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You should ask the court to make her take a drug test. Of course if it's positive then they will intervene and probably want to take custody. It would be better if the baby had you to take care of her until the mother is fit to take care of her. If she's not on drugs then you will have to prove that she's an unfit mother. If she doesn't have a job then she could file for public assistance. These days they make it harder to stay on it though. I had af riend who was on it after her baby was born .As a matter of fact it was the same exact situation, but she wasn't on drigs. Her husband was in jail and she had no job. The welfare paid her rent and gave her a small amount of money for the first year. After that they had some kind of schedule where she had to work part time and then they eventually wean you off of their assistance. this is in NY. Maybe you could talk to her and get her to sign over temporary custody until she gets right. But I would definately take some kind of action.
2007-01-28 08:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With no proof you cannot. She has to be proved unfit and even though you suspect, mere speculation is not proof. I would be there and help your sister best you can and get her on some kind of drug rehab. If DHS begins to get involved you might talk to them (if it comes to taking the child away) about temporary custody until she can get on her feet. Then if things don't get better then full custody. She will have to get a job too. That child needs a better life but they will need to know for sure she is an unfit parent. Be there to help her child and you need to talk to your sister about it. Talk to her about taking the child until she can get on her feet, but realize this is her child. She is your sister and this child is your nephew or niece. They will need all the help they can get. I would also talk to someone about it and maybe seek an attorneys advice and maybe someone who can advise you what steps to take. Unfortunately, it does not sound like she is taking the childs best interest at heart. But I do not know her so cannot make accusations based on it. It's the only advice I can give you.
13 weeks pregnant
2007-01-28 08:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! FILE FOR CUSTODY! This child is/will be in a very bad situation. He/she needs to be raised in a good, stable home. The child will not have that if the mom is on drugs and the dad is in jail, and the parents will probably be in and out of jail. Get a lawyer, file for custody. It's the right thing to do! Don't let anyone tell you differently.
2007-01-28 08:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by KMChickk 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she's on drugs, she's really apt to harm this baby. I would try and get her to a doctor to see what they can do about the drug problem. You really can't file for custody on a baby that's not even born yet. Wait until after the birth (if she makes it that far) and then make your decision.
2007-01-28 08:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think she's on drugs, you don't know. Besides, what makes you think you would be a better mother than her? Give the girl a chance, sometimes children make a world of difference in some people's lives. At least she isn't getting an abortion, she's ready to take on the responsibility.
2007-01-28 08:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by jaytayk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may report for sole criminal custody. you may or won't get it looking on what the charges have been and how long he's envisioned to be in penal complex. as quickly as he's out, he can report for joint custody. looking on his activity possibilities, he gets it. If he have been in reformatory for an prolonged volume of time, then his opportunities of scuffling with sole criminal custody are small. in case you propose to stay with him after he's out of penal complex, i in my view think of you will create quite some ill will making this submitting. i might consult with a lawyer approximately this until eventually now creating an exceptionally final determination. for the reason that we don't be attentive to WHY he's in penal complex, this isn't any longer likely a risk to guess what might ensue.
2016-09-28 02:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont accuse untill you have hard proof, you dont want to cause really big problems in the family. If she was on drugs and you knew for a fact she was than I would have to say yes, the child should be taken away untill she can prove she can be a good, clean , loving mother. If she isnt on drugs and is just trying to be a single mother than help her, family is supposed to be there for you in hard times. Good Luck to you!!
2007-01-28 08:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by BaBy KiSsEs!! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
guess what folks i am her sister i'm 38 weeks along i have two jobs and the father is NOT in jail do not take this seriously she is only a child and is very jealous because my baby is going to take her place as being the youngest she can't have custody of my baby and i AM NOT ON DRUGS ignore her the father also has two jobs and we are very foucused on our baby
the truth
2007-01-28 08:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
the only way you your self can file for custody is if you have some kind of proof without proof there really isn't any thing you can do,but wait.if this is the truth she will mess up soon enough,hopefully not before it is too late for the baby!!
2007-01-28 08:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by sassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can u at least give her a CHANCE to be a mother? maybe a child will give her life a since of direction. regardless u cant file for custody yet so be easy. she has to be PROVEN she is unfit.
2007-01-28 11:52:58 · answer #11 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋