When my bff and I are out I pay for her meals 90 % of the time. She always tell me she's broke and she cant buy anything. When we're at the mall she ends up buying a few things anyways. If she didnt have enough she askes me if I would chip in or could she borrow some money. I always give the money to her since its only a couple of bucks. I feel sorry for her that the fact her dad doesnt give her any money and they dont get along well. From the very start my bff didnt have any other really close friends she tells me that I'm the only person she can trust. I guess thats why she always comes to me for things. It gets really annoying sometimes she would ask me how much I'm carrying and she wanted to borrow money from me so she can buy her bf a gift. For ALL my birthdays she gave me things that are worth $3-6. Yesterday we meet up with friends she told me she got $50 left in her savings and she used up nearly $40. She then again tells me she's broke but why use up all her $ and ask me
2007-01-28 07:53:37 · 12 answers · asked by lim-k@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, she is definitely taking advantage of you. She is acting extremely immature and inconsiderate. You need to sit down and explain to her that you feel taken advantage of. Tell her you will no longer be her personal ATM. You need to stop paying for her meals and don't "loan" her any money. I can't believe she is hitting you up for money to spend on gifts for others, that is ridiculous!!! If you want to help, you need to help her find a JOB. When you hang out you need to do things that don't cost money or go to a restaurant she can afford.
2007-01-28 08:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bean62960 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is taking A LOT of advantage of your money, I would just say "I cant always pay for your things, sorry I dont want to pay for everything." or "Uh..why did you just use all your money up then ask me?" then quickly walk away or say the truth if she gets mad that her problem she might just be your friend for all the wrong reasons now. She needs to learn to save her money and not spend it all at once or just dont go shopping with her a lot. I have a friend and she always tries to put guilt on me and tries to make me get things she wants. I always ignore her but pretend im listening. Just like your friend she needs to learn to be responsible with money (their own money) its ok once in a while but not all the time if you dont want to tell her anything well i wouldn't pay for her things just pay for some. If she gets mad she is your friend for all the wrong reasons
2007-01-28 11:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Puppyluver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh babe that sucks! my parents are really well off and i normally pay for meals with my girls and then they will occasionally buy me starbucks and what not but i always offer to pay because some of them do have money issues but there is this one friend of mine who is always like i can't afford that blah blah blah but then when were out or whatever she'll buy 40 bucks worth of alcohol and whatever so i just stopped giving her money and we're not as close of friends but you have to stand up for yourself. moneys a big deal ya know? don't 'lend' her money she's not going to pay you back for and just be like i don't have cash oon me sorry or at meals have her pay for her meal and maybe you could do your meal and tip or something! don't let her take advangtage of you!
2007-01-28 08:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by BLEHH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is out of order shes using you for your money, she is taking the mick, shes making you feel guilty into giving it to her, it sounds like when she has she just waists it. She should not keep asking you for money. Shes going to make you broke. You need to let her know how you feel if she is a good mate she will understand.
2007-01-28 08:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt give her any more money unless its for something important. That's how you will know if shes taking advantage of you. Stop giving her money and if she gets mad or does not want to be friends with you, then she was using you.
2007-01-28 08:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by seriously crazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, except it was not my bestfriend, it was just my normal friend, She kept using me because she knows I buy expendive stuff for my friends. Like for my bestfriends, I bought them a whole Chanel outfit each. I didn't really care since my family is rich but, I still quit being her friend.
2007-01-28 08:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Friends should never ask anything of their friends but their time.
It's nice to "treat" now and then,but if you continue to enable her behavioor ,you have only yourself to blame.
2007-01-28 08:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do things with her that require money. yeah, she is taking advantage of her but you are allowing it. limit the amount of money that you carry when youre with her. that'll help. peace
2007-01-28 08:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new friend you are being used
2007-01-28 08:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tina Tegarden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So dont lend her any money
2007-01-28 08:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋