Okay, my fiance and I had a big fight yesterday, we came very close to breaking up. We have been together for 2.5 years and hardly ever fight, but yesterdy it dawned on me that had we broken up, I wouldn't have any money to take care of our daughter with because I am a stay at home mom.... This has gotten me worried...
Has anyone else been in this situation? Is it unreasonable to get a secret book safe for emergency money, ya know, just in case we have another unexpected fight?
2007-01-28 07:45:15 · 8 answers · asked by okeydokeyjal22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want to make something clear. I have an education. I have technical training as well as a college education. I CHOOSE to stay home because I want to teach my daughter. I want to know she is being taught the values and morals important to me.
What I am saying is, until yesterday I never had any doubts as to our relationship. Then, it hit me. We MIGHT not last forever and ever. I am qualified for work and he will take care of his daughter, but to move out, travel, get an apartment, make deposits, etc, all costs money. It never occurred to me to have a little something saved-just in case.
2007-01-28 08:33:02 · update #1
No this is not wrong at all actually it is a great idea and if you do then make out a will or a letter and sign it over to your daughter.
2007-01-28 08:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that in the event of a break-up or a divorce, your fiance would not provide for your daughter, you should not marry him. Keeping money as a secret is a big no no. Just think of what it would feel like to find out he's putting money away behind your back?
2007-01-28 07:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always feel this way...I work but he is my provider. He has alot of money and we have a big house and nice things and I know if i leave I will have nothing. Its a sticky situation because we will put up with more stuff because we have to in order to live the way we want. I stash money sometimes because he can be really nasty and I will have to leave and have to have money until he chills out
2007-01-28 07:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
I HAVE been there.
I stayed for 8 years and had 2 kids with him. He ALWAYS took advantage of me staying home to control me. You should go back to school and make sure you can earn enough money to take care of yourself and the baby. You cannot afford to be naive.
2007-01-28 07:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get education! he can babysit some evenings while you go to college! there is nothing worse than being dependent, save up some money and give to relative or safe keeping just to make sue you can cope if things go wrong!
2007-01-28 08:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,
no it is not. go one step further and get a job don't depend on him to care for you and the baby. your extra money will also help around the house and take some of the stress off the boyfriend also keeping down fights
2007-01-28 08:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hum secret money from your soon to be husband,,,,and you have to ask if it's wrong,,,,you are kidding right. if you think it may be needed, the don't marry him...Get a job out side the home, earn some of your own money, then try and figure out what you want to do.
2007-01-28 07:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by brp_13 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you have to do to make you feel safe and secure.
2007-01-28 08:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋