We just moved in together & things been oky but my main concern is that he does not know how to manage is money. So now he is haven a bad habit of asking me for money on a constent base. if i say now he gets upset so what i end up doing is giving him the money at the end. Last time i remember its a 50-50 thing!!! what should i do??????
2007-01-28 07:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by smily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The fact that he is asking on a constant basis and gets upset has me wondering what he is doing with the money. If he refuse to tell you or you find out that he is lying about where the money is going then you should not give him any money. If he is spending where I suspect he may be then your giving him money will only tell him that it is okay for him to do what he is doing with it. If you should find that he is spending where he shouldn't be then just refuse to give him any more money. So let him get upset or whatever. He'll get over it. Better he get mad than you constantly going round and round with this situation.
2007-01-28 08:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so difficult ,
Bu,t it is a good thing to bring up now and sort out ....
when you marry you are in a position of
* what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine *
With both your pooled incomes, put together ;
you really have to sit down and work out ,
what you need, to live .
( ie. rent / mortgage -- food/ clothing- heating / water rates, phone /PC health ins , /car --holidays --- etc)
THEN , if there is any money over,
you can share that, for your own spending money .
This really must be resolved or your marriage will flounder
He may not realize, just how much he is worrying you ,
He is a grown up person and must help you as you help him , that is what marriage is about .
I wish you both all the best
>^,,^<
2007-01-28 08:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you don't actually indicate that you ARE married he wouldn't be your spouse if you just moved in together. If you ARE married then all marital assets (your money, his money) are "joint" and so he is entitled to it unless you have a seperate account for yourself as well as one that takes care of the "household" bills (which I highly recommend)If that is the deal then don't give him any money. I suggest sitting down with him and helping him make out a workable budget and if he falters from the budget that is HIS problem not your's.
If you're NOT married, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE BEFORE HE DRAGS YOU INTO FINANCIAL RUIN.
2007-01-28 07:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be wise to attend for some kind of money management counseling for you both. You need to communicate with your mate your feelings and do so in a mature and open minded manner. If he is having that hard a time with money it may also be wise that you control all the money and he only get what is needed and not any for frivolous or unnecessary things. Best of luck.
2007-01-28 07:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him an allowance for doing his chores. Haha!
You should just write down the monthly budget and all your income for the month then both of you decide where you have a little flexible room to have spending money.
2007-01-28 07:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, it doesn't sound like a good idea to keep giving him money. You're going to keep giving and he's going to keep taking and soon you won't have the money like you should. If you start now and stop later he's going to make you feel guilty and try to cause arguments. Don't start something you don't want to continue doing.
2007-01-28 07:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 02:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it when he isn't asking for money. Finances are one of the reasons many relationships don't last. If you can't deal with the issue, try talking to a therapist as a couple or alone if he won't go.
2007-01-28 07:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by Shelley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what works for the two of you. My husband and I can't do joint checking. He refuses to record checks and I hate bouncing them, so we have separate checking accts. He has an ATM card on his and no checks, while I use only checks and no ATM card. Works great. If he needs money and I have it...it's his and vice versa. You have to work out your own kinks and find your own solutions.
2007-01-28 07:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you just moved in together, he's not your spouse.
2) If you don't trust him with money, why'd you move in with him?
I think you should move out, and break all ties with him. consider any money he owes you a loss and a lesson.
2007-01-28 07:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by headmaster382005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋