My marriage is going well, so far. I was wondering when and if the 'high' of being married goes down a little bit.
Is it possible to keep the fun of the early months of marriage for many years or does it always fade? What can you do to keep the spark alive?
My hubby and I communicate well, we are close and laugh with each other, give each other affection, show kindness, respect each other's opinion (even if it differs) and lots of little surprises (I love doing that).
But the early mystery, excitement and thrill has faded a little, for both of us, when we think back to our honeymoon and compare it. And this, within a year!
How does it go after few more years? Does it get boring? Who gets bored faster, the man or the woman? Can it still maintain itself over time? Or is that expecting too much?
2007-01-28 07:34:26 · 9 answers · asked by RealChic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's entirely possible! I've been married 11 years and we still act like teenagers.
Don't let yourself get too comfortable (where you show each other your worst side). Don't start walking around all the time in PJ's or sweats. Do your hair and makeup for him. Even if you're staying home. Don't turn into one of those nagging, complaining all the time wives.
Be happy and be fun to be around. Be happy to see him. Smile and give him a huge kiss every time he walks through your door. Don't let yourselves get to that point where you don't care. It's hard to get back.
Don't stop the surprises. Don't let yourself get boring. Have fun with each other. Do exciting things and do romantic things.
Most people let it go, don't be like them.
2007-01-28 08:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are becoming comfortable with each other, that doesn't mean the thrill is fading. With the communication, the respect and affection that you share is what keeps a marriage going. When you are feeling a little bit to comfortable, do something to bring back the honeymoon time. Don't worry so much, you guys have the foundation that marriages are built on. Enjoy your life together
2007-01-28 07:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things do change longer you are married, but it doesn't have to get boring. Of course, the "initial mystery & wonderment" of the honeymoon mature into a closeness,trust,loyalty,& friendship that you would never have dreamed possible. There are many ways to keep the "excitement" in your personal lives, everything from romantic weekend getaways - candle light dinners, chocolate dipped strawberries, to spending a nite in a local hotel just to get away from the normalcy of your everyday lives.....you can also role play, a popular "date" is for you to go to a local rest/bar & take a seat at the bar, (without your rings), and have your spouse arrive some time later & approach you as he would if you were both single..(or you can role play an affair between two married ppl that are both cheating) ending your date at a hotel (since you couldn't go to either of your homes!..) there are many ways to keep things heated up - and as long as you continue to talk openly you'll find what works for you.
2007-01-28 08:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage like anything else has its up and down times and its good times and bads and hard times as well as good times... However if you choose to love each other and work together through the hard and tough times you will become stronger and better over time and your marriage will get much better and stronger over time and you will be more in love then you ever were before. If you get bored then you do and try things to spice it up and make it more fun:)
2007-01-28 08:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect,love,communication,support of each other,the same goals. It all depends on how well you continue to love and all the other things mentioned here. I know people that have been married 50 years so I think that its what you want. You sound happy so please just stop looking for problems that may never be there. Be blessed.
2007-01-28 08:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The early years of the marriage are always a wonderful experience. You won't see the lows of marriage until you have children. Right now, enjoy your marriage and spending time with your husband.
2007-01-28 07:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Charlotte Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is keep up the communication. Communication is a key to a happy marriage.
2007-01-28 07:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personalities, goals and parenting styles. If you have at least 2 out of 3 it'll all come together.
2007-01-28 07:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheat dont get caught
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2007-01-28 07:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by john b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋