I have never dealt with it ever happening to me, but I keep working the dates out now, (3 years later)a huge scar reminds me daily
2007-01-28 07:29:12 · 6 answers · asked by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's hard to just "get over" anything like that. You never forget that child. I've never had an ectopic but I have had a miscarriage. I am now pregnant again with another baby. I will never just forget my baby that I couldn't carry to term, but I have a new child. It scares me with this one as well, but I know that I have new happiness in my new baby. It takes a long time to be able to cope but I have a new life in me and I allowed myself to fall into depression and I couldn't live for my hubby or anyone else who loved me. Don't let it take over your life. I hope you are able to have another. It's scary. Every week they stay alive is a reminder they are still alive. I hope things get better for you. You will never just forget your baby. I would consider counseling as well. Sometimes we know how bad it is, but we just don't realize we are that bad. Depression does not just go away and we grieve over those lost ones. You are not alone.
2007-01-28 07:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand your question completely? but..I had an ectopic almost 5 years ago. It was the worst experience I ever had in my life. I heard my baby's heartbeat just two hours before my surgery and I have ultrasound pictures of this baby that I wanted so much. My situation was life-threatening because it was an ovarian ectopic and I was already hemorraging. I was a very angry person that I didn't recognize for about 6 months afterwards until I started getting grief counseling. I will never be "over it" by any means, but I have picked up the pieces of my broken heart.
2007-01-28 15:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by shanesmommy01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had one about two years ago and nearly died when my tube burst and i was bleeding internally it was awfull and for a while i was really phased i think more with the idea of nearly dying but the scar does fade and shrink a lot and you do and will get over it although it was such an ordeal i am to scared to ever try for another baby incase it happens again although my chances of conceiving and having a normal pregnancy are high i would not want to go through that ever again. i hope you will be different and if it's any concolation you will get better it helped me by thinking it just wasn't meant to be and that what is meant for you won't go by you i hope that helps!!!
2007-01-28 15:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by hayley d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never really do. As time goes on you learn to live with it. Talk to someone tell them what you are feeling. It will ease the pain. I had one a couple of years ago, so I know what the feelings are. My Doctor told me I would suffer postpartum depression afterwards, boy was he right. If you don't know who to talk to, email me. I will listen, at least. Try to help where I can......
2007-01-28 16:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Out on a limb returns 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friends and family about how you are feeling, hopefully they will support and love you, which is what it sounds like you need.
Time is a great healer and whilst your'll never truely get over your loss you will eventually be able to live with it as time goes by.
all the best
2007-01-28 18:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by sarah h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
scar is nothing,,be happy that you have your health and life
2007-01-28 15:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by bannantynegirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋