My husband thinks I am sexy. I don't though. I think I am fat. I wear a size 12. He wants me to do a strip dance for him but I have NEVER danced before. I haven't slow danced or anything! I hate my body and I think I will look like a dumba$$ if I do it. Any ideas??
2007-01-28 07:23:08 · 8 answers · asked by stumped 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This could have been my question!
Delusional husband who thinks I look sexy...check!
Ludicrous request for me to wear sexy clothing and strip...check!
Personal feelings of being hideous and looking like an ****...double check!
It doesn't matter how much convincing hubby makes, it's not going to change how you feel about yourself. You have to work on feeling better about yourself for YOU. Surely you have a good feature, what is it? Play it up. Secondly, if you change your outward appearance, you can help change your perception of yourself. Lastly, if you're not happy as a size 12, you CAN change it...the question is, how badly do you want it? Once you start seeing results it will be its own encouragement.
As for your husband, I think there could be a compromise. A blind fold is quite sexy and mysterious. Throw on some sexy music, clothes and appeal to his sense of touch instead of his sense of sight. I think it may appeal to both of you.
2007-01-28 07:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby loves you, as long as you're dancing in front of him, rubbing on him, you'll turn him on. You know what he likes, make that part of your dance while you're moving your hips. If he's sitting, straddle his lap and guide his hands to your hips and you move them back and forth. You know what gets him going, just believe your man, a size twelve isn't fat...and you DO look sexy to him. Keep eye contact too.
2007-01-28 16:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you're fat, you are. If you think you're sexy, you are. You need to work on your self-esteem. You are what you think you are. It just doesn't matter what others think of your size or lack thereof. The fact that your husband likes you the way you are should tell you something about yourself. It seems to me that he married you.
2007-01-28 17:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by romeo_1595 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size 12 is not fat.
Just because you don't look like girls in mags and movies doesn't mean you're not sexy.
Let me tell you something about men. They like naked girls. They like all naked girls. They don't focus on things that we focus on. I look at my booty and see a cottage cheese fest. My husband thinks it's the hottest booty ever. Guys are blind to things like bulges and imperfections. (unless you point them out to him....DON'T!)
Pretend in your own mind that you are Angelina Jolie, or Jessica Alba or Halle Berry. Pretend that for one hour, you are that person. You have that body. Now you get to seduce your husband ONE TIME as that person. Think about how sexy you look, (as the celebrity) Move your body around slowly and have on brand new gorgeous lingerie under your clothes. Don't be yourself, be that sexy woman you imagine he wants to see.
Your husband will be drooling. He will think of you as a gorgeous sex goddess! Do it.
2007-01-28 15:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dance at a strip club for 1 night. You won't be self-conscious anymore. I'm absolutely serious. It worked for me.
2007-01-28 15:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
put on something that you feel sexy and comfy in and go with it...maybe a shot or 2 will help loosen you up:)
2007-01-28 15:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way go on the south beach diet or start exercising like at curves or even doing taebo at home.... Do this for yourself so that you will feel better and be able to please him for it!
2007-01-28 16:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and have fun with it.
Your husband likes you for you. Go with
2007-01-28 15:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋