My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, 2 years of this has been long-distance. We see each other about once a month. He told me last week that we need to do something about this distance so we agreed that in the next 6 months we both will do our best to move closer to each other. He is looking for a job near my city. I was happy with this news. He told me on Saturday that he is coming to see me in 2 weeks as I've been telling him how much I miss him and how much I want to see him. He called me on Saturday and we had a nice chat. This morning when I woke up, there was a message from him "I want you"!. I told him I want him too. He then replied and told me that he is getting upset with the distance and is fed up of not being able to have sex whenever he wants. He said he is so tired of this. What should I do? I did not react to it as I am not quite sure what to do? He has been down lately about everything, job, our distance situation.
2007-01-28 07:21:08 · 12 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This relationship is not working. A real relationship is not based on sex. You need to move on, as does he. You two are not together, so put plainly, you have NO relationship. A phone call here and there does not suffice. I have to be blunt, before you waste more of your precious time, and life. Tell him it is over, breathe a few deep breaths, and start anew. He sounds very selfish, and controlling to me, going by what you are saying. Move on to a real life. You will be happier.
2007-01-28 07:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by xenypoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right about the two of you moving closer to each other... However since you are not married yet sex should not be a big issue here at all and if this is the main reason he wants this then this is not the right reason at all.... He should not even need sex anytime he wants until you two marry... If it were me i would think twice about this and i really dont think personally that i would want this guy if the only reason he is in this is for the sex.
2007-01-28 16:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you his ho? You are upset that he is upset that he can't have sex with you whenever HE WANTS???? Poor baby. What if he knocks you up? I bet the distance between you will surely become much greater. You didn't say how old you are, but you sound very immature. life is never fair, things are the way they are because of your circumstances. I think you are better off finding a guy closer to where you live.
2007-01-28 15:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him and see if you could find a job that is in a closer city to you. Try by surprising me by seeing him and giving him something to remember and look forward too when you do finally move closer together. Or just move in together.
2007-01-28 15:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard to work with. I have had a couple because of my work. He probably doesnt want to hurt you and cheat on you. He might not be a strong as he thought he was. He may be afraid because he is willing to change everything for you, so you two can be together and things may not work out for you two. Just talk to him and reassure him that everything will work out.
2007-01-28 15:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a lot of ways u can give him sex from long-distance. make sure he rember what he has b4 he do somthing stupid. mail him a video of u doing what u do best, set up a web cam talk nasty and u watch him and he watch u. im sure that will get him by the next 6mo's and it will make him come down more then once a month. and it will make sure he remeber what he will be missing out on if he leave
2007-01-28 15:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you say you both promised to try to move closer to each other so maybe start looking for work where he lives, who ever gets the job first should do the moving.
2007-01-28 15:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lynnix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he expect you to do?
Maybe he's making the sex thing so important now because he wants out.
You two should have a really serious conversation with the understanding that until you move closer sex will not be happening everyday....at least not with each other.
2007-01-28 15:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you looked for a job near him? Who makes more money?
How easy would it be for ya'll to hire head hunters and get them working to find work for you?
If you want to be an activist for your cause, you must act, even if you are really unsure about leaving your job, you might want to try to leave with a door open for coming back.
Depending on what you do.. good luck to you for sure.
I'll say a little prayer..
2007-01-28 15:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by HA! HA! HA! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well..
if yall can move closer together that would be the best. if it doesnt work out when yall are seeing eachother more then yall will need to break up. so. maybe yall should see about moving in together. well. i hope this works out for you
2007-01-28 15:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋