DO my parents like me?

Question

Im 46, all my life my mother has put me down, "your fat, ugly and stupid. No one will ever love you, you will never amount to anything, I wish you were not my daughter," She did not have to be angry to say these things. I never remember her saying these things to my other sisters. I was always well behaved and a good student. When I was 17 I was asked to leave the house because I received a long distance phone call. I never had the same opportunities as my sisters. They went on to college and university while still living back home. I had to support myself through highschool. I always tried to work things out with all my family, but not knowing what I really did wrong it was hard. As the years went by I got married and had my parents first grandchild. I was asked not to visit. My sisters eventually moved away and moved back into the family home, living there years at a time. When I was eventually asked to visit I was still insulted and told to stay somewhere else instead

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10 minutes ago
that I had no rights to know. That the family had gotten together and decided this a bout me. Am I right to give up on this family altogether. I fell such guilt for not trying hard enough. This family when asked will not tell what the probelm it. I feel such lost at never being wanted or loved and the cruellest thing is they will not tell me why. What would you do

7 minutes ago
a part in the middle was omitted by yahoo. My mother had a stroke 6 years ago and no one didn't tell me, I was told when I found out accidently that I had no rights to know and it wasnt my right to know. That the family got together and decided this about me.

36 seconds ago
Of course there are two sides to every story. But why will they not tell me. I have no clue. What has my son who is 21 now ever done to them. One Xmas morning the only time I was invited my mother came into the room and kicked my sons Xmas presents, he was 7, told him he didn't deserve them and that he was a rotten kid.

Answer 1

As hard as it is, I'd walk away from that family. They obviously have issues and don't deserve having you to "kick around" anymore. I'd just tell your son that parents have problems that you don't understand.. but that you've decided not to let it taint your life anymore.

It sounds like you've done your best in resolving the issues. Rather then let it consume you... I think it's just time to move on and make a positive life for yourself. Do not subject your son to their cruelty by making it his problem too.

Good luck in moving on. There are some things in life we just can't explain.

They will all need to explain themselves to the Maker someday.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that your mother and family are like that. At this point in time, perhaps you should stop worrying if they like you or not. It seems that you have extended your hand many times to them, and they have not reached back. Apparently you are a resilient woman who has created her own family and life.
Although it is hard for a stranger to answer such a personal question, I am going to say yes, it's time to let go.
Shame on your mother for not knowing what a courageous, wonderful daughter she has, and shame on her for not wanting to know her grandson.

Choose to live your life with zest and be happy.
Take care.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry. That is a horrible thing for you to have to have dealt with for all these years. I don't like to speak negatively about people I don't know but your family sounds like horrible people to have done this to you and your son. I think you'll be better off if you don't even go around them.

Answer 4

I moved away. My family is not cruel like yours but I still know they don't like me. I'm sorry that your own family treats you this way. People say you can't pick your family, but you can choose not to be a victim to them. It won't be easy, but just write them off. Have people in your life that you want. It doesn't matter that they don't want you, what matters is who does.

Answer 5

move away from that stuff, there is obviously something not right there, look after your son, how many red flags do you need to get the message.

Answer 6

i realy don't know what to think about it but i wish you luck on trying to gain peace within your family. i wasn't treated like you have but i only had one friend during school, i would not know what to do if i was in your shoes but i still wish you luck and peace within your family.

Answer 7

omg that's horrible! i feel so bad for you, your obviously don't deserve what your getting from what i know. i hope you can work things out with them, good luck!

Answer 8

omg.. i'm so sorry.. this makes me feel so sad.. my boyfriends mom is like that.. she regrets even having him an stuff.. just constantly putting him down.. i cant stand people like that.. picking on their OWN children...your parents are just bullies. shame on them. your parents do not deserve a child like you.. your to good for your parents.. i wouldnt even let my own children see my mom if my mom was like yours

Answer 9

I don't want to say it and in my opinion no child should hear that words from their parents no matter what their age are but...... No thay don't love you..

I'm so sorry...

Answer 10

I'm sorry. Some people are mean. Aren't you glad you aren't?