is one enough?

Question

is one child enough or do you think an only is lonely.

i want more but worry cause my sisters girl was stillborn when my girl was 3 months i could'nt cope with that i just worry we are great money wise i just worry xx

Answer 1

I feel that many only children are spoiled and brats. They usually have a hard time learning how to share and do not like it when they are not the center of attention. I feel that having at least two children is better. Of couse, this is just my feelings and thoughts. Many only children are well adjusted, learn to share, and learn to share the spotlight with others. Having at least two children gives the siblings someone to share things with and someone to lean on. When the parents pass away, they still have someone close to them that has shared in all of the expereinces of growing up and sharing time with the parents. They know each other better than anyone else. They may fight and argue when they are younger but as they get older, siblings usually become best friends. They can usually talk to their sibling openly and without worry.

Answer 2

I was an only child for almost 8 years until my sister was born. I used to beg my parents for a sibling. My grandma is an only child and when her parents passed away she said it was so awful that she didn't have a sibling to share in her grief. She said she has always been very sad that she never had a brother or a sister. Even at 77 years old!!! I know when I was an only child I found it lonely. Obviously some people can only have one child but if you are considering another and can afford one financially then I say you should go for it. Having an 8 year gap between me & my sister was not optimal. I think 2-3 years between is the best as I am now 30, my sister is 22 and we still don't have a lot in common. I love her dearly but I was always more of a second mother figure to her. Good luck with your decision and don't worry about what happened to your sister. Worrying is not healthy in pregnancy. xo

Answer 3

Ultimately, it's the parent's choice. Whether you decide for financial reasons, or personal reasons. I can tell you that growing up as an only child can be lonely - but even that depends on the child's personality (I was a shy youngster but a friend of mine who's an only child was outgoing and probably didn't feel lonely). I chose to have 2 kids and am glad I did - they're old enough now that they play together more than they annoy each other.

Answer 4

Yes I think one child is enough. But I think I will end up having 2 or 3. Its easier with one. But then as they get older its easier with 2. No I don't think they are lonely all the time. I know many people who are only children and they were fine. But I know how much I carish my friendship with my sisiter and I want that for my kids.

Answer 5

It totally depends on the personality of the kid. Some children demand the attention of being an only child and a second will cause them distress. They will get used to it over time.

I've always favored having siblings though. As much as they fight and bicker, it's always nice to have a "built in" friend who you can hang out with and play with any time.

Answer 6

I had one 8 years ago and thought he was it. But I always wished I had a sibling for him. Now I just had another baby and I despritely want to have another in a few years so this baby has a sibling close in age to play with. I always called my son a lonely child not only child.

Answer 7

I personally think that two is a good solid number, I want a son and a daughter. However, I think you should consider how may children you are prepared to have, cost, time, space. How the first child may interact with the new baby. Do they get jelous easily? Things of that sort.

Answer 8

That all depends.
I'm not an only child, but I'm really lonely sometimes. Me and my brother just aren't close at all.
Some of my friends aren't close to their siblings either. Even my best friend, who has a brother only 1 year older then her. They just aren't close and might as well be only children.
Then I have some friends who are only children, and they never get lonely. It depends on personality.

Answer 9

I only have one and sometimes he begs for a sibling. My son's dad was an only child and he was pretty lonley, too. But I know some who were perfectly happy as onlies. I think it depends on how much time they get to spend with other kids and whether or not they appreciate having so much undevided attention.

Answer 10

I was an only...I was terribly lonely and now at 30 years old the closest relative I have in age is 18. I have two sons, three years apart, they are best friends..I just hope that lasts!