Happy marriage most of the time, his sulky, stress outs, put me downs, most of the time. Stay or leave?

Answer 1

We all get stressed out from time to time and sometimes our spouse has to deal with the fall-out. But you also mention that he puts you down (most of the time). I think you need to talk to him about his behaviour and how it affects you. If you truly love him and want to remain married to him, then maybe you should both consider marriage counseling to see why he puts you down so much.

Answer 2

hi, if your marriage is happy most of the time why would u even consider leaving your husband all marriages go through ups and downs you have got to take the bad with the smooth, but then u say he puts you down most of the time, so is your marriage happy or not, if someone was putting me down most of the time i would not be happy, why does he stress out, does he have a reason for doing so, why does he sulk, a marriage has to be a two way thing, you should be talking to him, i would be awfully upset if i thought my other half was on here asking if he should leave me or not, its not down to us we don't even know the bloke so we only have your side to consider which is a bit unfair when its something as important as this, don't u ever stress out go in a huff or put him down, cause to be honest i think your putting him down now, i dont mean to sound horrid but its him u need to talk to, so sit him down and tell him how u feel, he may be feeling the same way, a marriage is for life not just for the honeymoon, you should try every thing before leaving.

Answer 3

Being in a bad mood, sulking is a control mechanism. I lived that way for 13 years. I finally decided that I deserved better. I really found out the hard way that looks mean nothing and personality is forever. Two and a half years after I divorced, I married a great man with at wonderful personality. In the last 27 years, he has not once been in a bad mood. He is not perfect but life sure has been a lot more fun. I can only tell you this, he will never change no matter and the older he gets the worst it gets. Life is way to short for that crap. Good luck

Answer 4

my husband is the same way. Married for better or worse and sometimes men get stressed and moody just like us. I say, stay if you love him and he makes you happy most of the time. After all I'm sure he puts up with your mood swings and sometimes women have some really nasty ones that last a while

Answer 5

Stay put. There's nothing out here worth your while; you made your bed, now sleep in it. Communicate the dislikes, vocalize some happy moments to show you aren't just griping with no positives to look forward to, and work it out. In the end you'll all be happier than most of the rest of the world...the grass is always greener!

Answer 6

Sulking is a little boy/girl tactic. Suggest you ignore it completely.
Put me downs are a different matter - tell partner that you are tired of it and if it does not stop they can find someone else to use as an emotional puchbag.
For stress outs by a rattle to replace the ones thown out of the pram.

Answer 7

Know such thing as a( happy marriage most of the time).It's one or the other no in between.He won't change and if you think he will then you are in for a rude awakening.Leave him now while you are still young enough to get a good man.

Answer 8

I say Leave cause you do not need the stress or the crap . do you have a full time job do you or could you have a place to stay? It does not matter that much maybe you could stay with a friend . Just get out all the crap is not worth it life is too short. good luck.

Answer 9

If the putdowns are are mostly when he is sulky or upset, stay out of his way. stay if you are happy mostly. If he is a good man, stay.They are far and few in between. No marriage is 100% happy.

Answer 10

Ask yourself, is this the way I want to spend the next 10 years of my life? If the answer is no than it is time to move on. Read, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" by Dr. Laura Schlesinger. Good luck and happiness is in your future.