I packed up my stuff and my cats and left the apartment I share with the man who is having an affair with me. I have a job interview on Tuesday and enough money to make it a month on my own.
I'm at a hotel and am already bored. What can I do?
Also, do I owe it to him to talk to him? He was gone for the weekend and I just took off since he was paranoid his wife would find out about me.
Since he told me to just lay low for a few days, will he be expecting me to return?
2007-01-28 06:55:50 · 26 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you don't owe anything to him! It is easier said than done but please don't look back or go back stay focus on yourself. Find someone who will love you and only you and vice versa. Good Luck on the job interview. Life does go on and nobody is perfect.
2007-01-28 08:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by kwareman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, do you want to be on the back burner? Stick to your guns and don't even answer the phone! In fact, if you can, put the number on your block list so you are not tempted to answer. Call a friend or relative ANY time you feel the need to want to talk to him. Make yourself do ANY thing to take the time away and be able to get through this. Movies, self help books, journal write, phone calls, have coffee with your friends, etc. Give yourself plenty of time to gather your strength! You are a woman and you can and need to make YOU happy- FIRST. You can't search for the right man, he will come to you at the right time.
2007-01-28 15:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by mhford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ways to keep busy by preparing for your job interview, browsing around different places nearby. Do not go back to this man. He is married and will probably not leave his wife. You are probably better off alone anyway.
Write a journal or call up a friend if you feel bored. Or, watch some TV.
2007-01-28 15:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to focus on your life and your future, what kind of future do u think u got with him, when he tries to get rid of u just in case his wife comes over. he isn't going to be there for u or help u. what u are feeling now is the bad karma coming back to u, telling u that u need to make some changes in your life, hasn't this man done enough to hurt u already, why would u even want to waste any more of your life on him.
2007-01-28 15:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good that u left. it is possible to look for a job and be hored. make that your focus now job hunting. u cant be too bored u r communicating w/us. stop being silly u know what needs to be done and u dont need anyone to tell u. ur bad karma is going to follow u wherever u go if u dont leave this loser alone. he cheats on his wife and mistreats his mistress i cant belive he is not listed as THE most eligible man ever. pleeze.
2007-01-28 17:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really bad karma and nothing good will ever come of this. keep on moving and dont look back. you owe each other nothing. wise up and dont make the same mistakes again. if you are bored then start studying part time or work harder for a while.
2007-01-28 15:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will expect to talk to you again, especially since he told you to lay low. This sounds like a bad situation to be in, I think you should try and make it on your own if you can.
2007-01-28 15:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say good job on leaving him...you really need to get on with your life and forget him...and no i dont think you owe it to a cheater like him to talk to him...he will probably find someone else to replace you like all cheaters do...Just be strong and dont go back with all your extra time you have to think i say go out and do something go to a library the store call some friends just dont feel bad that you left you did the right thing. and don't return back to him even if he does expect you to DON'T.
2007-01-28 15:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by ღCCღ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a gripe....you don't owe this person anything.
He's married and he's a liar and a cheater.....don't contact him.
You need to take some time to get to know who you are and what you want for your life.
You shouldn't be a secret...you should live your life out in the open and it should be the life you deserve.
2007-01-28 15:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one he is a dead beat husband because he is cheating. He wants his cake and icing too. I feel bad for you because you are caught up in the moment and thinking this dirt bag really wants to be with you and only you. Look at the whole picture quit letting him bring you down with him. I do think you can do better than him.
2007-01-28 15:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋