How does your hubby act when he is super busy at work??

Question

My hubby is very busy at a project at work right now, he seems very tired, distracted and doesnt show much interest in me, us or talking, generally how he normally does behave.
Is this normal? I'm newly married and its been great upto now, is this change because of a sudden increase in his workload that is just making him too focussed to do anything else. Or is it just that the 'high' of marriage is coming down and he is becoming his real self?
Not sure. The project is due to end soon and I would like to ask other women if this behaviour is normal when their husbands are particularly busy at work or do they still behave normally like they always did?
And if not, do they get back to their normal selves afterwards?

Answer 1

I would say that this is quite normal. When working on anything, men and most women, become focused on what they are doing. For instance, my husband is extremely sensitive, gives me loads of gifts, calls me all the time and is quite jealous EXCEPT when he is busy. When he's busy he is very distracted, ignores me for hours and if things are goind badly or he is stressed, he is short, snappy, and irritable. Just sit back, support him, don't expect a lot out of him and see what happens at the end of the job. If you pester him too much, whine that he doesnt pay attention to you, you face the possibility of him thinking YOU have change and wondering exactly what hes gotten into. Once the job is over and you've supported him (though not kissed his a**) and he goes back to his old self, youve answered your own question. If he remains distracted and uninterested, make sure its not due to problems with the job or the next one coming up. If its not that and there doesnt seem to be anything else wrong then you may want to seek relationship counseling or possibly reevaluate the man you married

Answer 2

My husband gets strssed out and snappy and sleeps more than usual when he is under a lot of pressure at work. I try to cut him some slack and find relaxing things for us to do together. He loves to take naps with me, even. Just because you are being understanding doesn't mean you need to let him take it out on you though. Talk to him about it and ask him if there is anything you can do to help him cope with the added workload pressure.

Answer 3

stress at work will take a toll on a marriage, but you might be in a similar situation down the line...doesn't mean it's the 'real' you, just means the you have to get each other through the ruff times....what if he was diagnosed with a terminal illness or a relative dies, or your children are born ill...etc...see what I mean...so much can happen in a marriage....re read the vows you took to each other....all of those things may happen....sickness and in health...etc...

Answer 4

My husband has a very high stress job and when he is busy he is stressed. All he wants to do after work is come home and be with the dogs and myself.