2007-01-28 06:21:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump him and find a man who knows what he's doing.
2007-01-28 06:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First how old is you that you are judging his sexual performance?
Secondly, if sex is number one in your relationship priorities than find a guy that can lay some pipe, if it's not then get him to get some books on sex find what works for you with him. It's all about what you want out of life, love from the heart or somewhere further south.
(By the way sex fades out as you get older. I was a machine when I was younger wanted it like 3-4 times a day, now I barely want it once a week, and I presume as I get older the appetite will continue to wan)
2007-01-28 06:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not dump hima nd go on no double dates. Dont listen to none of that garbage these people telling you. They here for 2 points. Back to your situation.....
Step 1) Analyze and ideantify a problem
Step 2) If he is lacking for example in foreplay, show him how you like it!
Step 3) If that dont work talk to him and please God forbid dont talk to him right after sex or something, or even during sex. Find a good time and just ask him unoffencive small questions like: "Honey, are you satisfied with our sex life? You think we can improve?
Now once you you ask stuff like that he most likely will get a hint and ask you same thing. And thats when you gon have to tell him how it is. Carefully, with patience and offensing free.
2007-01-28 06:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let hI'm know how you feel, take it slow and easy with him cause im sure he will be offended. be nice and simple. if after you tell him and nothing improves well them i guess you would need to leave him, but sex isn't everything, although you do want someone who knows what there doing, sex is just overrated and over used so much that people have so high expectations of it. Give him time, he might be a type of guy that needs to warm up..maybe you could do something to improve it too. just be nice.
2007-01-28 06:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥!BabyDoLL!♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like going a few steps backwards. Kinda like giving someone a gift, then reconsidering and taking it back.
What do you want the relationship to be? What would represent an improvement?
2007-01-28 06:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his internet historys and cookies. He may be looking at too much porn to give any effort in the bedroom. If it's not that he may be cheating on you. There's no reason for a guy to be boring in the bedroom unless he is relieving himself sexually elsewhere. If it's neither of those things then you need to look in the mirror. Maybe try some new things, be more seductive. You may not know his buttons like you think you do. Be open to new kinds of foreplay, get a toy, or roleplay. If all else fails time to move on and find someone who can fill your sexual void.
2007-01-28 06:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mulisha Man 187 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find a new boyfriend. No matter what people ay tell you, sex is important in a relationship. You should be able to "connect" on all levels, if not, then he's NOT the guy for you.
Good luck!
:)
2007-01-28 06:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Boodie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it that there's no "sparks" between the two of you or he just doesn't know what he's doing? One can be fixed and the other can't. If there's no spark, then move on... you can't force yourself to find a connenction when there isn't one. If he's just bad in bed then SHOW him what needs to be done... don't just tell him.
2007-01-28 06:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set aside time to talk to your boyfriend. Be open and honest with him on how your feeling. Let him know you care about him, but would like things to be better in your sexual relationship.
Be specific with him about what you want and how you would like to try and do things and see if hed be open to trying the things you would like. Also be open to him if he would like to try new things or is wanting you to do different things as well. good luck.
2007-01-28 06:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him. It may be a bit embarassing, but you need to talk. Show him what you like. Then, if he really cares and changes, your sex and life will be even better.
On the other hand, if he doesn't care, then dump him..and fast!
2007-01-28 06:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by mhcgjl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to each other about what both of you really want in your sexlife. Likes, dislikes, fantasies. Be open and honest. Then, hopefully, you two will have fun!
2007-01-28 06:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mary W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋