Has anyone felt the death of a loved one as actual pain ?

Question

its always hard, but actual pain ? and where ?

Answer 1

Every single part of my body every time I knew I wasnt going to see him again :o(

Answer 2

Absolutely. For me, mainly in the chest, near my heart, but it can be felt everywhere. Stomach, back, legs, face - such grief can make you physically ache in every bone in your body. There is a reason the heart became known as the place one can most feel love and ache - it is the area that, when the chest tightens, quickens up or breaks down. Grief will most likely not cause a heart attack but it may feel that way for awhile. I remember it being an almost indescribable pain near my heart, an overwhelming sensation that spread throughout my chest and stomach and burned awfully everywhere it went. It felt like someone had continuously punched me in the chest. It came in flashes, a hollow yet sharp ache that I honestly believed would kill me. I even went for a stress test, convinced that my heart might be damaged.

It eventually begins to lessen, day by day. Letting it go is the best thing you can allow yourself. Many people (including myself) often think that letting go of some of the physical ache means they are not paying homage to the person enough. I have finally found that is completely untrue. Nobody who loves you would want to see you in pain. The greatest tribute one can pay to a loved one is to celebrate them and take good care of yourself.

If you experienced the death of a loved one, I am so sorry. There is very little to say beyond my thoughts are with you and I empathize. They are, and I do.

Answer 3

Yes, I've felt actual pain in my stomach and my heart. I've felt this even not with a death, but with the loss of someone in my life, like a breaking relationship. All I can say is that in time it gets better, but there is no doubt that it is real physical pain.

Answer 4

The death of a relationship (I know,,,not quite the same, but similar) pained me so much I had to have therapy. The diagnosis? Broken heart. And physical pain was felt in the chest.

Answer 5

Yes in the heart right in the heart and the despair is beyond belief unless you have been there. This happened to me when my dear old dad died. I had not realised just how close a bound there was between us until he had gone. After his death I was found in the corner of my office completely out of it and that was a whole year after his death and the pain still hurts 30 years on . It just happens to some folk with out any warning.

I Iost everything including my home and family. Believe me.


GDSOMERVIE so VERY sorry to hear of your loss, he is still with you really you know. Take comfort in that.... Nettie UK lass

Answer 6

It's actual pain but not a physical pain in the body. People interpret anguish as bodily pain sometimes because that's always how they've experienced pain. It's really purely mental, but it is "real" pain because it is the same activity in the brain and the same stress response.

Answer 7

In 1992, I watched my older sister pass away after we had decided to "pull the plugs" on her life-support systems; she had been in a coma for 2 weeks. I ran from the hospital room as she took her last breath and I literally felt like someone had socked me in the stomach. Physical pain along with emotional pain.

Answer 8

My father died yesterday, after a short illness, and I have not been feeling very well, although I wasn't feeling very well all day yesterday, so I'm not sure if that is pain. I do miss him and even though I knew he was going to die, it still makes my chest tighten a bit. Maybe the real pain is still to come.

Answer 9

Yes, when my Father passed away I became pyschically ill. It was as if my mind couldn't handle the pain so it passed it on to my body to become ill.

Now, 5 years later, I will have dreams that I'm with him, and I will wake up with a sharp pain in my chest as if I was crying very hard. I wake up exhausted and drained as if I was crying for hours.

Answer 10

I dont be attentive to in case you have lost any close family contributors, however the main astounding subject approximately that's that there isnt lots soreness. only somewhat guilt, confusion, and each so often forgetting they're ineffective. in actuality it annoys me while people act like it must be a extensive deal they could by no skill understand. existence is going on. Im nonetheless a similar man or woman.

Answer 11

My husband died 4 years ago in November. I missed him with a fierceness that often made my stomache hurt and for the first couple years I had other aches and physical pain that very well was probably connected to mourning for him.